Category: Legacy

Intentional Living, Legacy, Less is More, Mindfulness

Leave Memories, Not Boxes of Stuff

Jamie Perkins

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June 30, 2023
Leaving memories, not boxes of stuff, is something we begin thinking about as we grow older. We all accumulate items over time. But often, these possessions turn into clutter, leaving a burden for those left behind. Today, Boomers, we will explore the idea of leaving a legacy of experiences and memories instead of material possessions.

This is about choosing a life well-lived over a house filled with stuff. It’s about creating lasting memories that will be cherished by your loved ones long after you’re gone. Making your life story rich with experiences, not things, is a meaningful way to be remembered. Join me in thinking about how we can make this possible and why it’s an idea worth considering.

The Importance of Leaving Memories

When we think about our legacy, what comes to mind? Is it the wealth we accumulate or the possessions we leave behind? Or is it the memories we create and the impact we have on others? In a world that worships materialism, it’s easy to forget that memories are the true treasures we should strive to leave behind.

Memories Last Forever

Unlike physical possessions that can fade, break, or be lost, memories have the power to endure the test of time. They remain etched in our minds and hearts, ready to be recalled and cherished at any moment. Memories are the threads that connect us to our past, allowing future generations to learn from our experiences and keep our stories alive.

Memories Bring Comfort and Connection

When we lose a loved one, it’s not their material possessions that bring us solace in our grief. It’s the memories we shared together that provide us with comfort and a sense of connection. Memories have the remarkable ability to surpass physical boundaries and bring people together, even long after someone is gone.

Memories Have Lasting Impact

Our memories shape who we are and influence the lives of those around us. The lessons we learned, the moments we cherished, and the experiences we had all contributed to our personal growth and development. By leaving behind meaningful memories, we have the power to inspire, teach, and guide future generations.
- Memories remind us of the importance of love and relationships.
- Memories teach us valuable life lessons and wisdom.
- Memories inspire us to live our lives to the fullest.
- Memories connect us to our cultural and familial roots.
Leaving memories is not about accumulating physical possessions or leaving behind a vast estate. It’s about creating moments that matter, forging connections with others, and leaving a lasting impact on the world. When we prioritize memories over materialism, we ensure that our legacy is one filled with love, joy, and meaningful experiences.

The Problem with Accumulating A Bunch of Stuff

Accumulating stuff has become a common problem for many of us. Having too much stuff leads to clutter and chaos in our lives. It takes up valuable space, both physically and mentally. It can be overwhelming and stressful to try and manage all the things we accumulate. So, let’s think twice before collecting all the stuff and focus on what truly matters in life.

Stuff Takes Up Space

One of the most obvious problems with accumulating stuff is that it takes up physical space. As we bring more and more items into our lives, our living spaces become cluttered and cramped. Instead of enjoying an open and inviting home, we find ourselves surrounded by piles of possessions, making it difficult to relax and unwind.

Not only does clutter make our living spaces feel smaller, but it also makes it harder to find the things we truly need. How many times have you spent precious minutes searching for your keys or that important document buried under a mountain of stuff? By accumulating fewer things, we can create a more organized and streamlined living environment.

It Can Cause Stress

Studies have shown that living in a cluttered environment can increase stress levels and make it difficult to focus. The constant visual reminder of unfinished tasks and disorganization can weigh heavily on our minds.

The process of managing all our stuff can also be overwhelming. Cleaning, organizing, and maintaining our possessions takes time and energy that could be better spent on more fulfilling activities. By decluttering and only keeping the things that truly matter to us, we can alleviate stress and free up mental space for more important aspects of life.

Much of it Often Holds No True Value

While it may be tempting to hold onto every item we come across, the truth is that many of them hold no real value. We accumulate things for various reasons, but often, they end up forgotten or unused. That expensive gadget you had to have? It’s now collecting dust in a drawer. The trendy clothes that seemed so important? They’re now out of style and taking up valuable closet space.

Our society is obsessed with consumerism, where the value of objects is often compared with our own self-worth. But possessions alone do not define our happiness or success. True value lies in experiences, relationships, and personal growth. By breaking free from the accumulation mindset, we can focus on what truly matters and create meaningful memories.

Let’s take a moment to reflect on the problem with accumulating stuff. It not only takes up physical space but also adds unnecessary stress to our lives. Many of the things we accumulate hold no true value. It’s time to shift our perspective and prioritize what truly brings us joy, so that when we leave this world, we leave behind memories, not boxes of stuff.

How to Shift Focus to Leaving Memories

When it comes to our legacy, what truly matters is the memories we leave behind. Instead of accumulating boxes of stuff, let’s shift our focus toward creating meaningful experiences.

Prioritize Experiences over Possessions

Life is about the moments we live, not the things we own. By prioritizing experiences, we create a life filled with meaningful memories. Instead of spending money on material possessions, invest your precious time in activities and adventures that bring joy and satisfaction to you. Whether it’s traveling to new places, trying new hobbies, or simply spending quality time with loved ones, these experiences will enrich your life and create lasting memories.

Focus on Meaningful Connections

“In every conceivable manner, the family is a link to our past, a bridge to our future.” – Alex Haley

Our relationships are the threads that weave the fabric of our lives. To leave behind valuable memories, focus on building and nurturing meaningful connections with others. Take the time to listen and appreciate the people in your life. Engage in deep conversations, share laughter, and create memories together. Surrounding yourself with loved ones who uplift and inspire you will leave a lasting impression on both you and them.

Document and Share Your Life Story

Each of us has a unique story to tell. By documenting your life, you can preserve memories for future generations and inspire others. Start a journal to capture your thoughts, experiences, and lessons learned. Share your stories with loved ones or consider starting a blog to reach even more people you care about. By reflecting on your journey and sharing your experiences, you leave a meaningful legacy that goes far beyond material possessions.

Establish Relationships by Becoming Pen Pals with Family & Friends

Another wonderful way to share memories is by establishing pen pal relationships with family and friends. Through handwritten letters, you can exchange personal stories, recount shared experiences, and create a lasting connection. This allows you to not only reminisce about the past but also keep the memories alive in present-day interactions. Many children these days don’t receive handwritten letters. It’s important to continue to correspond in this way so that it doesn’t become a lost art.

Create Memory Journals or Scrapbooks

Documenting memories in a tangible way is a beautiful and creative way to share them with your loved ones. Consider creating memory journals or scrapbooks filled with photographs, handwritten notes, and mementos. These personalized keepsakes can be passed down through generations, allowing your loved ones to relive the cherished memories and stories you’ve shared.

Utilize Digital Platforms for Sharing

There are countless platforms available to share memories with loved ones. From social media to online photo albums, you can easily upload and share photographs, videos, and stories. Embrace these digital tools to create virtual connections with family and friends, ensuring that your memories are accessible and cherished by all.

Legacy Planning for Leaving Lasting Memories

When it comes to thinking about our own mortality, it can be difficult to imagine a world without us in it. Taking the time to plan for our legacy can ensure that the memories we leave behind are cherished and meaningful. Legacy planning allows us to shape how we will be remembered and leaves a lasting impact on our loved ones.

Involve Loved Ones in the Process

When it comes to planning your legacy, involving your loved ones in the process can make it even more meaningful. Seek their input, listen to their ideas, and involve them in decision-making. This not only ensures that your legacy aligns with your values and desires but also creates a sense of togetherness and shared purpose. By involving your loved ones, you can strengthen your relationships and build a legacy that reflects who you are.

By shifting our focus from stuff to experiences, we can create a legacy that truly matters. When we die, our loved ones will remember the moments we shared, the adventures we embarked on, and the love we gave, rather than the physical objects we owned.

“What we have once enjoyed we can never lose; all that we deeply love becomes a part of us.” – Helen Keller

Ultimately, the choice to leave memories, not boxes of stuff, is a conscious decision that requires a shift in mindset. It may not always be easy, but the rewards are immeasurable. So let us focus on creating lasting memories, cherishing experiences, and building relationships that will be remembered long after we are gone. In the end, it is the memories we leave behind that truly define our legacy.
Intentional Living, Legacy, Mindfulness

Where do You Begin?

Jamie Perkins

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June 19, 2023

Losing a loved one can be one of the most challenging and emotional experiences we go through. As the grieving process begins, it’s crucial to find ways to honor our loved one’s memory while managing the practical aspects of their passing. It’s tough. One task that often falls on our shoulders is sorting through and organizing our loved one’s belongings.

After having experienced this with my parents, I’d like to share some valuable tips I leaned about how to declutter a loved one’s belongings after death, making the process less overwhelming and more manageable. We’ll explore how to approach the task with sensitivity, create a plan, and determine what to keep, donate, or discard. You may be able to transform this daunting task into a meaningful way to celebrate your loved one’s life and legacy.

“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal.” — Richard Puz

Just Start Somewhere

When it comes to decluttering a loved one’s belongings after their death, sorting and organizing their belongings can be an overwhelming task. Yet, it is an essential step in the process of moving forward while keeping cherished memories close.

Sorting through a lifetime of possessions can seem like an impossible task, but it’s essential to begin with just one area. Starting small, such as one closet or drawer, can help build momentum and make the task feel less overwhelming. It’s also important to have a game plan and the necessary supplies on hand before starting. Collect plenty of boxes and bags and have them ready to store the items to keep, donate, or discard.

As you begin sorting through belongings, consider each item’s value and significance. Keep items that hold special memories or have practical use. Donate items that are in good condition and can be useful to others. Discard items that are no longer useful or hold no sentimental value.

If you plan to sell the home, consider leaving items a new owner may be able to use. This may be an incentive for a new home buyer.

Organize as You Go

Creating categories can help make the sorting process more manageable. Consider grouping items by type, such as clothing, books, or sentimental items, or by the person who the belongings belonged to. Label each container with its contents, making it easier to find items later.

Take Advantage of Technology

The use of technology can be an invaluable tool in the sorting and organizing process. Take photos of sentimental items before letting them go or create digital copies of important documents. Consider creating a digital scrapbook of cherished memories or using a decluttering app to keep track of progress.

Ask for Help

Decluttering a loved one’s belongings can be one of the most emotional and challenging things you must do. You really shouldn’t do it alone if possible. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from family members or friends. Having someone to share the workload can make the task feel less daunting and provide emotional support during the process.

Handling Valuables

When decluttering a loved one’s belongings after their passing, it’s important to handle their valuables with care and respect. Here are some tips on how to handle these items in a way that honors their memory:

Identify Valuables

Before you start decluttering, identify which items are considered valuable. These may include jewelry, antiques, family heirlooms, and other items that hold sentimental or monetary value. Once you’ve identified these items, set them aside in a separate pile or box.

Involve Family Members

If there are multiple family members involved in the decluttering process, be sure to include everyone in the handling of valuables. This ensures that everyone has a say in what happens to these items and can help avoid any potential conflicts down the road.

Consider Appraisals

If you’re unsure about the value of certain items, consider having them appraised by a professional. This can help you determine whether an item should be kept, sold, or donated.

Store Valuables Safely

Once you’ve identified and appraised your loved one’s valuables, be sure to store them safely. This may include keeping them in a secure location such as a safe or safety deposit box or storing them with a trusted family member.

Donate or Sell Valuables

If you’ve decided to donate or sell your loved one’s valuables, make sure to do so in a way that honors their memory. Consider donating to a charity that was meaningful to them, or selling items to collectors who will appreciate their value.

Handling a loved one’s valuables can be a sensitive and emotional process. By approaching this task with care and respect, you can honor their memory and ensure that their belongings are handled in a way that aligns with their wishes.

Managing Paperwork

Dealing with a loved one’s paperwork after their passing can be a rather intimidating process. It’s important to take it one step at a time and prioritize the most important documents. Hopefully they have a will or a trust which details everything you will need to do. If not, be sure to involve the immediate family members in this process.

Locate Important Papers

The first step in managing paperwork is to locate the most important documents, such as wills, trusts, and life insurance policies. Look through the deceased’s files, desk, and safe to gather all the necessary documents. Once you have them, keep them in a safe and secure place.

Decide What to Keep and What to Toss

After locating all the paperwork, it’s time to decide what to keep and what to toss. Keep documents that are important for legal or financial purposes, such as tax returns, property deeds, and bank statements. Consider shredding or disposing of documents that are no longer needed, such as old bills or expired documents.

Organize the Paperwork

Once you’ve decided what to keep, it’s important to organize the paperwork. Sort the documents by category and label them accordingly. Use folders or binders to keep everything in one place and easy to access. You will need these documents in the future, so take your time and sort through them carefully.

Get Help if Needed

If the paperwork seems overwhelming or you’re not sure where to start, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Consider hiring a professional organizer or estate planning attorney to assist you in managing the paperwork.

Digitize Important Documents

To ensure that important documents are easily accessible and secure, consider digitizing them. Scan the paperwork and store it on a computer or cloud-based storage system. This will also help prevent loss or damage to the original documents.

Managing paperwork can be a difficult and emotional process. Take your time, stay organized, and don’t hesitate to reach out for assistance. Remember that once the paperwork is organized, it will be easier to move forward with the decluttering process.

“When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.” — Unknown

Taking care of a loved one’s belongings after death is a difficult and emotional task, but it is an important step in the grieving process. I hope that some of these suggestions will make the process less overwhelming and more manageable for you.

Remember to take your time, involve family members, or close friends, and honor the memory of your loved one throughout the process. Some of your family members may need more time so be patient as you are sorting through years worth of memories. It was a challenging experience for me, as I had to handle both of my parents’ belongings at the same time since they passed within just six months of one another.

It is also important to consider the value of certain items and to properly dispose of them in a respectful and honorable manner. Donating items to charity or giving them to family members can be a great way to honor your loved one’s legacy while also clearing out their belongings.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to be patient, kind, and compassionate with yourself and others as you navigate this difficult time. With the right mindset and approach, decluttering your loved one’s belongings can be a healing and transformative experience.

Please feel free to share your thoughts and feelings below and may God bless you as you work through this difficult time.
Intentional Living, Legacy, Mindfulness, Personal

A Blink of an Eye

Jamie Perkins

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May 31, 2023

“It doesn’t matter how grown up you get, because you will forever be my baby to me.” – Unknown

Time flies, and before you know it, those little ones you’ve raised are all grown up and ready to leave the nest. It’s a bittersweet moment for every parent. Let’s explore the emotions and milestones that come with watching your children grow up and become independent.

Discover helpful tips on how to cope with this transition and how to maintain a strong bond with your kids even after they’ve moved out. So, fasten your seatbelt and let’s lift off into this journey of children flying the nest together, and enjoy how to embrace the change and cherish the memories.

“The purest of love is that which is between a parent and their child.” – Unknown

That Bittersweet Feeling…They Grow Up

As parents, we eagerly anticipate our children’s first steps, first words, and first day of school. We are there for every milestone, every triumph, and every setback. Our children grow up before our very eyes, and we can’t help but feel a mix of excitement, sadness, and pride as they spread their wings and fly the nest.

The Excitement of Watching Your Children Grow

Watching your children grow up is an incredible experience. From their first smile to their graduation day, every moment is special. We marvel at their curiosity, their creativity, and their resilience. We help them discover their passions and talents and encourage them to pursue their dreams. We share in their triumphs and celebrate their achievements. We help them up when they fall. It is a privilege to be a part of their journey and to watch them learn and grow.

The Sadness of Letting Go

Despite the joy of watching our children grow, there is a bittersweet feeling that accompanies it. As they become more independent, they need us less and less. They spend more time with their friends and less time with us.

They pursue their own interests and priorities. It can be difficult to let go of the role we have played in their lives and to accept that they no longer need us in the same way. As happy as we are for them to be independent, we may feel a sense of loss as they move out of the house and into the world.

Raising Independent Children is the Goal

As our children grow up and become more self-sufficient, we can take pride in the fact that we have raised them to be independent and capable individuals, who can contribute to society. We have given them the tools and skills they need to navigate the world on their own.

We have instilled in them values such as kindness, empathy, a strong work ethic, and perseverance. We can feel confident that they will make their own way in the world and that they will continue to learn and grow throughout their lives.

We also experience a mix of emotions. We feel excited to see what the future holds for them, but also sad to see them leave the nest. We take pride in their independence and achievements, but also feel a sense of loss as they no longer need us in the same way. However, one thing is certain: the love we have for our children will never waver, no matter how far they fly.

As parents, we all know that the day will come when our children leave the nest. Though it can be emotionally challenging, preparing for the empty nest is important. Below are some tips to help you get started.

The Importance of Planning Ahead

Preparing for the empty nest requires planning ahead. It’s essential to start thinking about your future without your children. Consider what you will do with your newfound freedom. You may want to take up a new hobby, travel, downsize your home, or even start a new career. Having a plan will help you feel more in control of what’s to come.

Redefining Your Relationship with Your Children

As your children leave home, your relationship with them will change. It’s important to recognize this and find new ways to connect with them. You may want to schedule regular phone or video calls, plan visits to see them, or even take a family vacation together. This will help keep your relationship with your children strong, even as they start their own lives.

It is so rewarding to be able to enjoy your adult children and you may also learn a thing or two from them, such as, “Hey Ryan, I’m thinking of starting a blog. Can you give me a hand?” https://www.ryrob.com/

Rediscovering Your Own Identity

As parents, we often put our children’s needs before our own. As they leave home, we have an opportunity to rediscover our own identity. Take some time to reflect on what makes you happy and fulfilled. Rediscover the things you love to do and explore new interests. This will help you create a sense of purpose and identity outside of your role as a parent.

By planning ahead, redefining your relationship with your children, and rediscovering your own identity, you can prepare for the empty nest and embrace this new phase of life with confidence.

Having an empty nest can be a time to explore new opportunities. You can think about going back to school, starting a new career, or traveling to new places. This is a great time to focus on yourself and your own goals.

Take the time to reflect on what you want to achieve and set new goals for yourself. This will give you a sense of purpose and direction. You can also use this time to give back to your community by volunteering or getting involved in local organizations. If you enjoy working with children, schools are a great place to start! They can always use qualified volunteers.

The moment when children leave home can be a bittersweet experience for parents. While it may be difficult to let go of our children as they leave the nest, it’s important to remember that they are embarking on a new and exciting journey. With the skills and values we’ve instilled in them, they will be able to navigate the world with confidence. So instead of dwelling on their departure, let’s celebrate their new beginning.

Feel free to share your empty nest experiences in the comment section below.
Intentional Living, Legacy, Mindfulness, Personal

23andMe

Jamie Perkins

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May 24, 2023

This Boomer’s Story

Well, who knew. It turns out, nobody did. Everyone loves a good story, and 23andMe stories are no exception. This fascinating tale of ancestry, genetics, and family connections may just capture your curiosity.

I suspect that many boomers may have or will experience something similar.

¨You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.¨ — Desmond Tutu

In this piece, I’ll explore an intriguing 23andMe story that exposed a revealing surprise that could have only been discovered through my DNA.

The Back Story

About four years ago, my son Ryan, called me to tell me about a “strong connection” he had on his 23andMe account. This was a person unknown to us who appeared to be connected through my father’s side of the family. He urged me to get a 23andMe kit and to submit my DNA.

Once I got over the fear and paranoia of having my DNA “out there” in no man’s land, my curiosity kicked in, so I did it. I spit in that tube and I mailed it off. Then I went about my life and didn’t give it another thought.

What is 23andMe?

At its core, 23andMe is a genetic testing service that provides you with a comprehensive report of your genetic data. This report includes information about your ancestry, including where your ancestors came from and how they migrated over time. It also includes information about your health and wellness, including potential genetic risks for certain diseases and traits.

But 23andMe is more than just a genetic testing service. It also provides you with access to a community of individuals who share your DNA. This can be particularly helpful for individuals who are searching for biological family members or who want to connect with others who have similar genetic traits.

And this is where the plot thickens! For some of us, it can also bring to light some shocking discoveries, like the sudden realization that you have a half-sibling. This revelation can be a lot to process emotionally, but it can also be the beginning of new relationships.

The Shocking Discovery

Discovering a half-sister can be a jarring experience, especially if you had no idea she existed. The only sibling I knew I had was my brother, who I grew up with.

It’s not uncommon for people to use DNA testing to learn more about their family history, but finding a half-sister can be a total surprise. Many people experience a range of emotions, from disbelief to excitement to confusion.

It’s important to take a step back and process your feelings before taking any action. You may want to speak with a trusted friend or family member to help you work through your emotions.

I went through the whole range of emotions before doing anything about this. My parents were long gone and to my knowledge none of my relatives had any clue there was another sibling in our family.

The Emotional Rollercoaster

Once you’ve processed your initial shock, you may find yourself on an emotional rollercoaster. Connecting with a half-sister can bring up a range of emotions, including joy, anxiety, and even grief. It’s important to be honest with yourself about your emotions and to give yourself time to process them.

You’ll have a lot of questions about your shared history and family, and it’s important to approach these conversations with sensitivity and care. Remember that she is likely processing her own emotions and may need time to adjust to this new relationship as well.

How I Connected with “MY” Half-Sister

Connecting with my half-sister was a rewarding and fulfilling experience. I tried to approach the relationship with realistic expectations. Honestly, for the better part of 60 years, we had no idea our relationship existed. Perhaps it would be better to just let it be? Just go on with life without opening that box?

After lots of prayer and discussions with my family and a close friend, I decided to reach out to her. You know how you have those friends in your life that you can go months, even years, without talking to, then pick up the phone and it’s like you were just speaking yesterday? You pick right up where you just left off?

Well, that is what if felt like. Oddly, she didn’t feel like a stranger at all. We had an instant connection, and it was remarkable. Our relationship was off to a promising start.

Right away, we figured out that my “our” father met her mother very briefly shortly before my parents met and married. My parents had no idea she existed and her mother refused to speak to her about who her father was.

We started by getting to know each other through phone calls and talked about getting together some time in the future. It was so helpful to have open and honest conversations about our shared history, our feelings, and our expectations for this new relationship.

As we got to know each other a little better, we discovered that we had so much in common and we shared so many similar interests growing up. Even our health histories paralleled one another in many ways. We both wanted to build memories by sharing our experiences and we were beginning to grow closer.

Until COVID hit.

“I wish I had met you earlier Lisa. I thought we had all the time in the world.” – Your half-sister

She became ill and didn’t make it out of the hospital. I never got to tell her how much I appreciated how hard she worked to find me. I am grateful for the short time I got to know her and as with most family stories, there is a silver lining. I’m an Aunt again!

She has two grown daughters and I had the pleasure of meeting one of them in person recently (see below). She is delightful. She is strong, courageous, and has a big heart and beautiful spirit. I look forward to getting to know my half-sister better through her daughters.

Discovering a half-sister was an exciting and life-changing event. The gift of newfound family connections enriches lives and broadens perspectives. Embrace the opportunity to learn about shared genetics, family histories, and cultural backgrounds.

Develop meaningful relationships, share stories, and create lasting memories together. Remember, family is not only defined by blood, but also by the bonds formed through love, support, and understanding. Make opportunities to see your family as often as you can.

“Don’t put off what you can do today until tomorrow because it may be too late.” – Jamie Perkins

In memory of my half-sister, Lisa. May your soul rest in peace.

If you have a 23andMe or another genealogy story to share, feel free to leave your comment here.
Intentional Living, Legacy

Not Your Parents’ Grandparents: Baby Boomers Transforming Family Dynamics

Jamie Perkins

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May 9, 2023

The modern family landscape is constantly evolving, and with it, the role of grandparents is undergoing a significant transformation. As we, the Baby Boomer generation, enter our golden years, we are redefining family dynamics and challenging the traditional notions of grandparenting.

“Parents know a lot but grandparents know everything.” — Unknown

The Evolution of Grandparenting

Grandparenting has changed significantly over the years. While in the past, grandparents were seen as primarily providing occasional babysitting and spoiling their grandkids with treats, today’s grandparents are taking on a much more active role in our grandchildren’s lives. Let’s explore the journey of grandparenting from traditional to modern

From Traditional to Modern Grandparenting

In traditional grandparenting, grandparents were viewed as respected elders who were consulted for advice and support. They would occasionally babysit their grandchildren and provide them with treats, but their involvement in their grandchildren’s lives was limited. However, as baby boomers became grandparents, we began to redefine what it means to be a grandparent.

Today’s modern grandparents are much more involved in our grandchildren’s lives. We take an active role in their education, attending school events and helping with homework. “Boomer” grandparents are also more involved in our grandchildren’s social lives, attending sports games and dance recitals. Additionally, modern grandparents are often relied upon for childcare, helping working parents to balance work and family responsibilities.

We are also more tech-savvy than our predecessors. We use social media, video chat, and texting to stay connected with our grandchildren, even if they live far away. This has allowed us to have a closer relationship with our grandchildren, despite geographical barriers.

Despite the changes in grandparenting, one thing remains the same – the love and support grandparents provide to their grandchildren. Whether through traditional or modern grandparenting, grandparents play an important role in their grandchildren’s lives.

“Grandparents are the best kind of grownups.” — Unknown

Baby Boomers as Active and Involved Grandparents

Baby Boomers, born between 1946 and 1964, are now reaching the age of retirement and are becoming grandparents. However, we are not the stereotypical grandparents who sit in rocking chairs and watch our grandchildren play from a distance. Rather, we are active and involved grandparents who take a hands-on role in our grandchildren’s lives.

Boomers are known for our strong work ethic and desire to stay active. We are using our retirement years to travel, volunteer, and pursue our interests. This desire for an active lifestyle also extends to our role as grandparents. Baby Boomers want to be involved in our grandchildren’s lives and create lasting memories with them.

Grandparents are now providing more childcare than ever before, and Baby Boomers are no exception. We are willing to step in and help with babysitting, driving our grandchildren to after-school activities, and even taking them on vacations. This level of involvement has a positive impact on the grandchildren’s lives and helps to strengthen the bond between the generations.

Baby Boomers are redefining the role of grandparents and are creating new family dynamics. We are more involved, active, and connected than ever before. Our influence on their grandchildren is immeasurable, and the active role in our grandchildren’s lives is something to be celebrated.

“Grandpas always have time for you when everyone else is too busy.” — Unknown

Baby Boomers as grandparents can bring a unique perspective to our grandchildren’s lives. We can offer a sense of stability and connectedness that is essential in today’s fast-paced world. As we share our wisdom and experiences, Boomers can inspire our grandkids to be curious, compassionate, and resilient. Through the power of grandparenting, Baby Boomers can leave a lasting impact on the lives of those we love.

Here is a personal message to our granddaughter, Courtney.

“Always remember that you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and loved more than you’ll ever know.” – Papa Perkins

Dear Courtney,

Your Papa and I are so very proud of you and your accomplishments. You stuck through thick and thin, survived COVID college life, worked very hard to get through school, and you’re graduating at the top of your class. We can’t wait to see what you do next! We’ll be there next week to see you graduate – CSU Fresno – Craig School of Business, B.S. in Business with an emphasis in Marketing.

Keep spreading your wings and embrace this amazing and wonderful life.

Love – Pops and Jamie
Legacy, Mindfulness

Where’s the Glue

Jamie Perkins

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May 6, 2023

Whose job is it to hold the extended family together

“In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future.” – Alex Haley

Many boomers have, or will, experience the loss of their parents… the glue that held the family together. Our parents were the ones we all came home to on special occasions, such as weddings, anniversaries, funerals, and of course, for all the major holidays.

So, what happens when they are gone? Where is the glue that held us all together? Dave and I are the oldest living children of our families. Does that make it our responsibility? It’s a tricky question and one that isn’t really easy to answer.

When it comes to family, there’s no denying that it can be tough to keep everyone connected. With busy schedules, conflicting personalities, and different priorities, it can be difficult to know whose job it is to keep the extended family together.

The Importance of Family

Before we dive into the question of whose job it is to hold the extended family together, it’s essential to recognize why family matters. Family is the foundation of our lives, and it provides us with a sense of belonging and support.

When we have healthy family relationships, we’re more likely to have healthy relationships in all areas of our lives, including work, friendships, and romance. But when family relationships are strained or non-existent, it can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and even depression.

The Responsibility of Each Family Member

While it’s tempting to think that one person should be responsible for holding the extended family together, the truth is that it’s everyone’s responsibility. Each family member plays a vital role in strengthening the family bond.

Whether it’s keeping in touch regularly, attending family gatherings, or being there for each other during difficult times, each family member has an essential part to play.

While it’s true that everyone in the family has a responsibility to keep in touch and support one another, there’s often one person who takes on a more prominent role in holding the family together. This person is often the one who plans family reunions, sends out holiday cards, and keeps everyone informed about what’s happening in the family.

While this person is essential, it’s crucial to remember that they can’t do it alone. It’s up to each family member to support them and take an active role in keeping the family connected.

The Benefits of a Strong Family Bond

When a family is tightly knit, there are many benefits. For one, family members are more likely to have a support system in place during difficult times. They can rely on each other for emotional, financial, and practical support.

Additionally, a strong family bond can lead to better mental health and well-being. Research shows that people who have close relationships with their family members are less likely to experience depression and anxiety.

The Bottom Line

So, whose job is it to hold the extended family together? The answer is simple: it’s everyone’s responsibility. While there may be one person who takes on a more prominent role, each family member has a vital part to play.

“There is no doubt that it is around the family and the home that all the greatest virtues… are created, strengthened and maintained.” – Winston Churchill

Family is essential, and it’s up to each of us to do our part in keeping the extended family connected. By staying connected, supporting each other, and making an effort to stay involved in each other’s lives, we can strengthen the family bond and reap the many benefits that come with it.
Legacy, Minimalism

Immaterial Inheritance

Jamie Perkins

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May 2, 2023

Inheritance, noun, refers to the assets that an individual bequeaths to their loved ones after they pass away. An inheritance may contain cash, investments such as stocks or bonds, and other assets such as jewelry, automobiles, art, antiques, and real estate.

What if the inheritance we pass on to our children is more than the material possessions or the financial assets outlined in our trust? Shouldn’t it also include the legacy we leave and the examples we set?

“What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” ~ Pericles

In this way, inheritance is more than what we usually think about.

This is an interesting perspective with significant consequences. The inheritance we leave for our loved ones extends beyond the material things we’ve collected or the money in our bank accounts.

Our inheritance also includes how we live our lives, the examples we model, the time spent with our loved ones, and the character we develop.

No matter how many assets are contained in your trust, you can still pass on to your children, and grandchildren, a valuable inheritance by living a life of character and gratitude focused on the things that matter most.

This type of “immaterial” inheritance is more valuable in the long run than a “pile of stuff” or a dollar figure.

Unlike tangible assets, immaterial inheritance cannot be divided up and distributed among our family members. Instead, it is often passed down through informal means such as storytelling, mentoring, and shared experiences.

For example, if your grandmother taught you how to cook a signature family recipe, that knowledge would be considered part of your immaterial inheritance. Similarly, if your parents instilled in you a strong work ethic or a commitment to community service, those values would also be part of your immaterial inheritance.

I experienced this through observing the relationship my son, Ryan, had with his grandpa, my father. As you can see in the featured photo, those two were inseparable. One thing we can never get back is time, but the time spent and the memories can warm our hearts for a lifetime.

Understanding the concept of immaterial inheritance is important because it can help you appreciate the intangible assets that you have inherited from your family and ancestors. It can also help you to think about how you want to pass down your own knowledge, skills, and values to future generations.

Nothing can replace creating memories and family traditions.

Those are what will be remembered and carried on in future generations. if you have family, you will pass on an inheritance.

Immaterial inheritance is often overlooked. It is an important part of our family history and can have a significant impact on our lives.

By understanding the concept of immaterial inheritance, we can appreciate the intangible assets that we have inherited from our families and think about how we want to pass down our own knowledge, skills, and values to future generations.

Remember the gifts we can leave to our children extend far beyond material possessions. Be mindful about focusing on what’s most important.