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Baby Boomers, Decluttering, Family, Intentional Living, Less is More, Mindfulness, Simplicity

It’s The Holiday Season: Do More of What You Love

Jamie Perkins

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December 4, 2023

It’s only the 4^th of December and odds are that you may already be feeling the stress of the holidays. If so, pour yourself a nice cup of hot chocolate, grab a soft blanket, sit down in your favorite chair and just relax for a while.

Are you ready to make the most of your holiday season? Today we’ll explore the things you should remove from your life to enjoy the holiday season to the fullest. By identifying and eliminating these stressors, you can create a more joyful and relaxing holiday experience for yourself and your loved ones. Let’s talk about how you can make this holiday season truly special.

Declutter Your Home

Remove Unnecessary Decorations

Paring down excessive holiday decorations can create a more serene and enjoyable atmosphere in your home. Rather than overwhelming your space with lots of decorations, consider streamlining to a few key pieces that hold sentimental value or really enhance the aesthetic. Choose quality over quantity, and carefully select the elements that will bring you the most joy during the holiday season.

Clear Out Unused Items

Take the opportunity to declutter your home by clearing out unused items. This can include anything from old furniture and décor to clothing and kitchenware. By removing these unused items, you’ll not only free up physical space, but you’ll also clear mental space, allowing you to fully appreciate the holiday season without the weight of unnecessary stuff all over the place.

By decluttering your home, you can create a more peaceful and welcoming environment for yourself and your loved ones during the holiday season.

Simplify Your Schedule

When it comes to enjoying the holiday season, simplifying your schedule can make a world of difference. By prioritizing commitments and delegating tasks, you can free up time for what matters most.

Prioritize Commitments

Start by evaluating your commitments and identifying the most important ones. Consider which events or tasks align with your values and bring you joy. By focusing on these priorities, you can avoid overextending yourself and feeling overwhelmed.

Delegate Tasks

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Whether it’s enlisting family members to assist with holiday preparations or delegating work assignments, sharing the load can lighten your burden. By entrusting others with certain tasks, you can create more space for relaxation and enjoyment during the festive season.

Minimize Financial Stress

To fully enjoy the holiday season, it’s crucial to minimize financial stress. By setting a realistic budget and avoiding impulse buying, you can ensure a more relaxed and enjoyable time.

Set a Realistic Budget

Start by assessing your current financial situation and determining how much you can comfortably spend during the holiday season. Take into account all your expenses, including gifts, decorations, and entertainment. Create a detailed budget that allocates specific amounts for each category and be sure to stick to it to avoid overspending.

Avoid Impulse Buying

During the holiday season, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of shopping and end up making impulsive purchases. To prevent this, make a list of the gifts and items you need to buy and stick to it. Consider doing your shopping online to avoid the temptation of impulse buying in stores, and try to compare prices to ensure you’re getting the best deal.

By setting a realistic budget and avoiding impulse buying, you can minimize financial stress and fully enjoy the holiday season.

Reduce Social Obligations

Learning to say no can be a liberating experience, especially during the holiday season when social obligations tend to pile up. It’s important to prioritize your own well-being and focus on quality time with loved ones rather than spreading yourself too thin.

Learn to Say No

Saying no is not always easy, but it’s a necessary skill to maintain a healthy work-life balance, especially during the holidays. It’s important to set boundaries and not feel guilty for declining invitations or requests that may overwhelm you. By politely declining commitments that don’t align with your priorities, you can create space for more meaningful experiences.

Focus on Quality Time

Instead of wearing yourself out attending numerous events, focus on quality time with close friends and family. Plan intimate gatherings or activities that allow for genuine connections and cherished memories. By prioritizing quality over quantity, you can truly enjoy the holiday season without feeling drained by excessive social obligations.

Unplug and Recharge

Limit Screen Time

It’s all too easy to spend countless hours glued to our screens. Whether it’s scrolling through social media, binge-watching shows, or catching up on emails, excessive screen time can leave us feeling drained and disconnected. By consciously limiting our screen time, especially during the holiday season, we can free up precious moments to engage in meaningful interactions and activities that truly recharge our spirits.

Engage in Mindful Activities

Instead of getting swept up in the hustle and bustle of the holiday rush, consider incorporating mindful activities into your daily routine. Whether it’s taking a relaxing walk in a park, swimming a few laps in a pool, or simply savoring a cup of coffee without distractions, these mindful moments can provide a much-needed pause from the chaos. By being present and fully immersing ourselves in these activities, we can create a sense of calm and rejuvenation that sets the stage for a more enjoyable holiday season.

Ultimately, by removing unnecessary stressors and distractions, you can fully immerse yourself in the joy and festivities of the holiday season. Embracing a minimalist approach to your commitments, obligations, and possessions will allow you to prioritize what matters and make the most of this special time with your loved ones. So, declutter your schedule, simplify your surroundings, and savor the moments that make the holiday season so magical.
Baby Boomers, Doing Less, Family, Intentional Living, Less is More, Mindfulness, Simplicity

Ways to Simplify Your Life During the Holiday Season

Jamie Perkins

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November 29, 2023

Whew! We just experienced Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, Cyber Monday, Giving Tuesday, which can lead to Weeping Wednesday if you’re not careful. It can be exhausting and overwhelming … even if you don’t leave your home. Our email inboxes have been bombarded with those bargains the marketing experts are just sure we can’t live without.

The holiday season can often be overwhelming with the hustle and bustle of activities and expectations. Finding ways to simplify your life during this time can bring a sense of peace and joy. It’s a good time to explore practical and effective strategies to help you streamline your holiday season, allowing you to focus on what matters most. Whether it’s managing your time more efficiently, simplifying your holiday traditions, or minimizing stress, these tips will help you navigate the season with ease.

Plan for the Holidays

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” – Denis Waitley

Create a Realistic Budget

Setting a realistic budget is the first step in simplifying your life during the holiday season. Sit down and take a thorough look at your finances, considering your income and expenses. Allocating a specific amount for gifts, decorations, and entertaining can help you avoid overspending and the stress that comes with it. Consider creating a detailed list of gift recipients and the amount you plan to spend on each, ensuring it aligns with your budget.

Schedule Your Time Wisely

Managing your time effectively is crucial during the holiday season. With lots of gatherings, shopping, and decorating to take care of, it’s essential to schedule your time wisely. Consider using a planner or digital calendar to map out your commitments and tasks. By doing so, you can ensure that you allocate sufficient time for each activity, minimizing last-minute rushes and hectic moments.

Simplify Your Gift Giving

Simplifying your gift giving process can significantly reduce holiday stress. Instead of overwhelming yourself with countless gifts to buy, consider organizing a gift exchange with family and friends. This way, each person only has to purchase one present, relieving the burden of extensive shopping. Additionally, consider giving the gift of experiences, such as tickets to a show or a homemade treat, which can be more meaningful than material possessions. By streamlining your approach to gift giving, you can focus on the true spirit of the holidays.

Minimize Holiday Stress

“Make the time to go outside or simply take a break from the craziness that surrounds the holiday season.” – Dr. Daisy Sutherland

Take Care of Yourself

During the holiday season, it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle, often neglecting our own well-being. Taking good care of yourself is vital in reducing holiday stress and creating peace in your life. This can involve simple activities such as setting aside time for a peaceful walk, enjoying a warm bath with a good book, or engaging in a hobby that brings joy. Taking time for oneself allows for a much-needed break from the chaos, promoting relaxation and rejuvenation.

Set Realistic Expectations

Setting realistic expectations allows you to avoid becoming anxious and overwhelmed during the holidays. Instead of striving for perfection, recognize that it’s okay if things don’t go exactly as planned. Embrace the imperfections and focus on creating meaningful moments with loved ones. By letting go of unrealistic ideals, it becomes easier to enjoy the holiday season without unnecessary pressure.

Learn to Say No

Learning to say no is a powerful tool in simplifying the holiday season. It’s important to acknowledge personal limits and not overcommit to numerous events or tasks. By politely declining invitations or additional responsibilities, you can prioritize your well-being and allocate time for activities that matter to you. This allows for a more balanced and stress-free holiday experience.

Simplify Your Holiday Decor

Decorating for the holidays can be a joyful but hectic task. To simplify your holiday decor and reduce stress, consider the following tips:

Opt for Minimalist Decorations

When it comes to holiday decor, less can often be more. Choose simple, minimalist decorations that bring a touch of festive cheer without overwhelming your space. Choose a few statement pieces or a cohesive color scheme to maintain a clean and uncluttered look. Embracing minimalism in your holiday decor can create a sense of calm and elegance during the busy season.

Declutter Before Decorating

Before diving into holiday decorating, take the time to declutter your home. Clearing out unnecessary items can make space for your festive decor and prevent your holiday display from feeling crowded. Consider donating or storing items that are not essential during the holiday season to create a clean canvas for your decorations.

Create a Cozy Atmosphere

While simplifying your holiday decor, focus on creating a cozy and inviting atmosphere in your home. Utilize warm lighting, such as string lights or candles, to add a soft and welcoming ambiance. Incorporate plush throws, festive pillows, and natural items like pinecones or greenery to bring a comforting touch to your holiday decor. By prioritizing coziness, you can make your home feel inviting and relaxing for both your family and guests.

Streamline Meal Planning

“The most treasured things passed down from generation to generation are the family recipes.” — Robert St. John

Simplify Your Holiday Menu

When it comes to simplifying your life during the holiday season, one key area to focus on is meal planning. Start by simplifying your holiday menu. Instead of preparing a wide array of complex dishes, consider paring down your menu to a few well-loved and easy-to-prepare recipes. This not only reduces the stress of meal preparation but also allows you to focus on creating memorable dining experiences with fewer, carefully selected dishes.

Prepare Make-Ahead Dishes

Another effective way to streamline your holiday meal planning is to prepare make-ahead dishes. Identify recipes that can be made in advance and stored, then simply reheated, or served without much effort on the day of the event. This approach not only saves time and reduces stress in the kitchen but also ensures that you have more time to enjoy the company of your loved ones during the holidays.

Embrace Potluck Style Gatherings

Consider embracing potluck-style gatherings for holiday meals. This not only lightens the load on the host but also adds a delightful variety to the meal, as guests contribute their favorite dishes. Potluck-style gatherings also promote a sense of community and shared responsibility, allowing everyone to participate in creating a memorable holiday meal while reducing the burden on any single person.

“The best meals are those prepared by loving hands.” — Ken Poirot

Practice gratitude and mindfulness to stay present and appreciate the joys of the holiday season. By cultivating a mindset of thankfulness and embracing simplicity, you can find peace and fulfillment amidst the hustle and bustle of this time of year.
Baby Boomers, Family, Intentional Living, Less is More, Mindfulness, Simplicity, Time

It’s That Time of Year…the “Season” of Excess

Jamie Perkins

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November 3, 2023

Have you noticed that the major retailers have been boldly displaying Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s items for the past several weeks? Not to mention, there are Black Friday, Cyber Monday, and the Just Because and Why Not bargains looming out there trying to get you to succumb to the temptation.

This drives me crazy on multiple levels and for a number of reasons. It’s not just the “clutter” aspect of it, it’s the subtle, or not so subtle, pressure to buy a bunch of crap you don’t need. Honestly, if you don’t need an item retailing at full price, you don’t need it on sale either. Now, if you want an item, that’s another story, but don’t let them pressure you into thinking you need it.

Yes, the holiday season is upon us once again, that time of year when everything seems to be about excess. From lavish gifts to indulgent feasts, it’s a time when people embrace the spirit of abundance. But amidst the celebrations and festivities, it’s important to remember the true meaning behind it all. Let’s talk about the paradox of the “season” of excess, exploring both its joyous and challenging aspects.

“Black Friday… it’s the day people trample over one another for items on sale, exactly one day after celebrating how thankful they are for what they already have.” — The Minimalist Boomer

The Allure of Abundance

There is something undeniably alluring about abundance. The sight of beautifully wrapped presents under a glistening tree, the aroma of mouth-watering dishes wafting through the air, and the warmth of loved ones’ laughter echoing in our ears – it’s a feast for our senses. The holiday season can offer a respite from the daily grind, a chance to indulge in the pleasures we often deny ourselves.

Yet, amidst this sea of excess, it’s crucial to pause and reflect. Are we experiencing joy in these moments, or are we merely caught up in the frenzy of consumerism and societal expectations? It’s easy to get carried away with the allure of abundance, but it’s essential to find a balance that brings genuine happiness, rather than fleeting gratification.

The Struggles of Excess

While the holiday season is often portrayed as a time of unbridled joy, it can also bring about its fair share of struggles. The pressure to create the perfect holiday experience, both for ourselves and others, can be overwhelming. Financial strain, unrealistic expectations, and the sheer busyness of the season can leave us feeling depleted rather than fulfilled.

The excesses of the season can take a toll on our physical and mental well-being. Overindulging in rich foods and drinks, coupled with the lack of exercise and sleep, can leave us feeling sluggish and drained. This can lead to a post-holiday “hangover” that takes time to recover from and months to pay off your debt if you overspent in an attempt to please everyone. You don’t have to do that. Change this narrative for your family.

Finding Meaning Amidst the Glitter

What is most important is to find meaning and purpose in each holiday. It’s not about rejecting the festive cheer, but rather embracing it in a way that aligns with our values and priorities. This is an opportunity to reflect on what matters most to us and to create meaningful experiences that go beyond material possessions.

Instead of focusing on extravagant gifts, consider the gift of your time, presence, and love. Engage in acts of kindness, both toward others and yourself. Volunteer at a local shelter, share food with your friends and neighbors, spend quality time with loved ones, or simply take a moment to appreciate the meaning and beauty of the season. These simple yet profound gestures can bring far greater joy than any material possession ever could.

“Food brings people together on many different levels. It’s nourishment of the soul and body; it’s truly love.” – Giada De Laurentiis

A Season of Balance

The key to navigating the “season” of excess lies in finding balance. It’s about indulging in the festivities while remaining mindful of our own well-being and the impact of our actions. By practicing moderation in all aspects, we can enjoy the pleasures of the season without compromising our physical, mental, and financial health.

Ultimately, the holiday season should be a time of connection, gratitude, and self-reflection. It’s an opportunity to celebrate the abundance in our lives and extend kindness to others. By embracing the true meaning of the season and finding our own unique balance, we can make it a truly memorable and fulfilling time of year.

As the “season” of excess unfolds, let us not lose sight of its true essence. It’s a time of both delights and challenges, where we must navigate the allure of abundance while staying grounded in our values. By finding meaning amidst the glitter and embracing a season of balance, we can create a holiday experience that actually resonates with our hearts and souls.
Baby Boomers, Family, Intentional Living, Mindfulness, Motivation

Don’t Wait for Everything to be Perfect to Begin Enjoying Your Life

Jamie Perkins

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October 25, 2023

We often find ourselves waiting for the perfect moment to start enjoying our lives. We wait until we have more money, until we have more free time, or until we have achieved our goals. But the truth is, there is no perfect time. Life is unpredictable, and waiting for perfection means missing out on the wonderful experiences that are available to us right now. So, let’s break free from this cycle of waiting and start enjoying our lives today.

Embrace Imperfection and Live in the Present

Waiting for everything to be perfect before we allow ourselves to enjoy life is an exhausting and futile pursuit. Life is messy, and imperfections are what make it beautiful and meaningful. Instead of waiting for the stars to align, embrace imperfection and live in the present.

“I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness – it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.” — Brene Brown

Accepting the Unpredictability of Life

Life is full of surprises and twists that we may not anticipate or plan for. Embracing the unpredictability of life allows us to adapt and find joy even in the face of uncertainty. Don’t miss an opportunity to find happiness in the small moments and unexpected opportunities that come our way.

Finding Joy in the Present Moment

The present moment is all we have. By focusing on the here and now, we can fully immerse ourselves in the experience and appreciate the beauty of the present moment. Look for ways to find joy in the everyday moments, whether it’s savoring a cup of coffee, enjoying a walk in nature, or spending quality time with loved ones.

Take Action and Pursue Your Passions

Waiting for everything to be perfect can also hinder us from pursuing our passions and dreams. We often hesitate because we fear failure or believe that we’re not ready yet. But the reality is, there will never be a “perfect” time to start. Life is a journey of growth and learning, and we must take action to move forward.

Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

Fear and self-doubt can hold us back from experiencing true happiness and fulfillment. Instead of letting these negative emotions control our decisions, let’s challenge them head-on. Take small steps toward your passions and goals, even if it means stepping out of your comfort zone. Remember, every great achievement starts with a single step.

Embracing Mistakes and Learning Opportunities

Mistakes are inevitable, and they are not a reflection of our worth or abilities. Embracing mistakes as learning opportunities allows us to grow and improve. Don’t wait for everything to be perfect before pursuing your passions. Embrace the journey, celebrate your progress, and learn from any setbacks along the way.

Surround Yourself with Positivity

To truly enjoy life, it’s essential to surround ourselves with positivity and supportive people. Negative influences can drain our energy and make it difficult to find joy. By consciously choosing to surround ourselves with positivity, we create an environment that nurtures our happiness and encourages personal growth.

Cultivating Positive Relationships

Seek out relationships with people who uplift and inspire you. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones who share your values and support your dreams. These positive relationships will provide a sense of belonging and encouragement, making it easier to enjoy life to the fullest.

Creating a Positive Mindset

Our mindset plays a significant role in how we experience life. By cultivating a positive mindset, we can shift our perspective and find joy even in challenging situations. Practice gratitude, focus on the positives, and challenge negative thoughts. Remember, happiness is a choice, and it starts with cultivating a positive mindset.

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” — Denis Waitley

Embrace the journey, not just the destination: Often, we get so caught up in the pursuit of perfection that we forget to enjoy the process. Don’t wait for everything to be perfect to begin enjoying your life. Learn to appreciate the journey, the ups and downs, the failures, and successes. It is through these experiences that we learn and grow and find true fulfillment. So, instead of fixating on the end goal, savor each moment along the way and make the most of what life has to offer.

Remember: “Happiness is not a destination, but a way of life.” – The Minimalist Boomer
Baby Boomers, Family, Intentional Living, Mindfulness

A Growing Trend: Baby Boomers Stepping Up to Raise Grandchildren

Jamie Perkins

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August 21, 2023

Dave and I saw a lot of this in our last few years serving as school administrators in Central California. For a variety of reasons, a growing number of baby boomers are finding themselves raising grandchildren. Sometimes, life’s unexpected twists and turns can lead to circumstances where grandparents must step in as primary caregivers.

This trend is reshaping the traditional family structure and stirring up a mix of emotions. While it’s a blessing to have grandchildren around, the responsibility that comes with it can be overwhelming. Read on to discover the reasons behind this phenomenon, the challenges faced, and the valuable resources available to help these boomers navigate this new role.

Reasons Why Baby Boomers are Raising Grandchildren

“About half of the grandparents who are responsible for their grandchildren are 60 and over, according to census data.”

As society continues to evolve, so do the reasons why boomers find themselves taking on the role of raising their own grandchildren. This new dynamic brings forth various challenges and responsibilities that were unforeseen during their own parenting years.

Increase in Substance Abuse and Addiction

“Over 40% of children being cared for by a grandparent are there because of at least one parent’s substance abuse.” – US Census

One of the unfortunate realities is the alarming increase in substance abuse and addiction among parents. As the opioid crisis continues to grip our nation, many baby boomers are left with no choice but to step in and care for their grandchildren. Substance abuse can severely impair a parent’s ability to provide a safe and stable environment for their children, leaving the responsibility to fall on the shoulders of grandparents.

Parental Incarceration and Legal Issues

Another reason why boomers are finding themselves raising their grandchildren is the issue of parental incarceration and legal troubles. With the rising rates of incarceration, parents may be unable to fulfill their caregiving duties, leaving grandparents to step in as primary caregivers. This sudden change in family dynamics can be emotionally and financially challenging for the whole family.

Parental Mental Health Challenges

Mental health challenges among parents, such as depression, anxiety, or other psychiatric disorders, can also play a significant role in grandparents assuming the responsibility of raising grandchildren. When parents struggle with their own mental well-being, they may not be able to provide the necessary care and stability that children need. In such cases, grandparents may have to step in to provide a nurturing and secure environment for the children.

Financial Instability and Unemployment

Financial instability and unemployment can greatly impact a family’s ability to provide for their children. Economic downturns and job loss can leave parents unable to meet the basic needs of their children. Baby boomers, who have typically already established their careers and have more financial stability, may find themselves supporting their own children and grandchildren during times of financial hardship.

Emotional Impact on Baby Boomers Raising Grandchildren

Raising grandchildren can have a profound emotional impact on boomers. This unexpected responsibility brings forth a range of complex emotions, including feelings of loss and grief, strained relationships with adult children, and potential stress and burnout.

We worked closely with several sets of grandparents over the years to ensure they were able to provide their grandchildren with the best education possible.

Feelings of Loss and Grief

For many baby boomers, raising grandchildren is not part of their life plan. The sudden shift from a phase of life focused on personal freedom and retirement to one of caregiving can lead to feelings of loss and grief. They may mourn the loss of their own dreams and aspirations, as well as the loss of the freedom and independence they once enjoyed.

Watching their adult children struggle with challenges such as addiction, mental health issues, or financial instability can also trigger a sense of loss. Boomers may grieve the lost potential of their children and the disruption to their family dynamics.

Strained Relationships with Adult Children

“Only 11% of grandparents are raising their grandkids because of the death of one or both of that child’s parents.” – US Census

The role reversal that occurs when baby boomers become primary caregivers to their grandchildren can strain relationships with their adult children. Tensions may arise from differences in parenting styles and expectations, as baby boomers may feel the need to establish their own rules and boundaries while raising their grandchildren.

Furthermore, conflicts can arise due to the emotional baggage carried from past issues between the baby boomers and their adult children. Unresolved conflicts or strained relationships may resurface, creating additional stress and strain on the entire family.

Stress and Burnout

Raising grandchildren is a demanding and challenging responsibility that can lead to significant stress and burnout for baby boomers. They often face physical exhaustion from the daily demands of childcare, including sleep disruptions and increased responsibilities.

Financial strain can also contribute to stress, as baby boomers may need to adjust their retirement plans or make sacrifices to provide for their grandchildren’s needs. Balancing the needs of their grandchildren with their own self-care can be overwhelming, leading to emotional and physical burnout.

The combination of emotional turmoil, strained relationships, and the pressures of caregiving can leave baby boomers feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and emotionally drained.

Benefits of Baby Boomers Raising Grandchildren

You may be pleasantly surprised if you find yourself in the position of caring for grandchildren. While unexpected, this new role can bring about a wealth of benefits for both the grandparents and the grandchildren involved.

Maintaining Family Unity and Tradition

One of the significant benefits of Boomers stepping in to raise their grandchildren is the preservation of family unity and tradition. By assuming the role of primary caregivers, these grandparents are able to provide a sense of continuity and connection to the family’s roots. They can pass down important family values, stories, and customs to the younger generation, ensuring that these traditions are not lost.

Providing Stability and a Loving Home

Another advantage of Boomers raising their grandchildren is the stability and love they provide. As experienced and mature individuals, they can offer a secure and nurturing environment for their grandchildren to grow and thrive. Having a stable home and consistent caregivers can significantly contribute to the overall well-being and development of the children.

Sense of Purpose and Fulfillment

Taking on the responsibility of raising grandchildren can give Boomers a renewed sense of purpose and fulfillment. By being actively involved in their grandchildren’s lives, they find a new passion and a reason to keep pushing forward. This role allows them to make a positive impact on the next generation and experience the joy of watching their grandchildren grow, learn, and succeed.

Overall, Baby Boomers raising their grandchildren can have numerous benefits, including maintaining family unity and tradition, providing stability and a loving home, and finding a sense of purpose and fulfillment. This evolving family dynamic not only benefits the grandparents and grandchildren but also strengthens the bond between the generations, promoting perseverance, resilience, and creating a brighter future.

The phenomenon of Baby Boomers having to raise their grandchildren is a growing societal issue that requires attention and support. As this trend continues to rise, it is crucial for communities and government organizations to provide resources and programs that can assist these grandparents in their caregiving roles. By recognizing the unique challenges faced by Boomers in this situation, we can work toward creating a more inclusive and supportive society for all generations.

Let us strive to empower and uplift these grandparents who selflessly step up to provide love, stability, and guidance to their grandchildren, ensuring a brighter future for the younger generation.
Decluttering, Family, Less is More, Mindfulness, Minimalism

It’s That Time of Year

Jamie Perkins

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August 17, 2023
Hey Boomers…Do you still feel like doing a little back-to-school shopping this time of year? Maybe it’s just me. I’ve lived about 60 years of my life on a “school year” schedule plus my mom was a teacher, so when this time of year rolls around, I still get the urge to do some shopping! Most of my “shopping” these days involves the purchasing of gift cards to send to our friends and loved ones so that they may enjoy this special tradition and select items they really do need.

As the summer sun sets, the call of back-to-school season grows louder. Yet, with it comes the overwhelming task of shopping for supplies. But what if I told you that you don’t need to fill your cart to the brim this year? What a great opportunity for you to begin to teach your children HOW to shop like a minimalist!

This post is all about minimalist back-to-school shopping. Here are some practical tips on how to resist the urge to buy every shiny object in sight, and it’s easier than you think. Stay tuned as we debunk the myth of ‘more is better’ and help you start the academic year with a clear mind, more money in your pocket, and a decluttered backpack.

The Excitement of Back-to-School Shopping

As summer comes to an end and the new school year approaches, there’s an undeniable buzz in the air. It’s back-to-school time! And one of the most exciting aspects of this season is the anticipation of going shopping for new school supplies, clothes, and accessories. Let’s see how you can make the most of this tradition while being mindful of your budget and focusing on purchasing items you actually need and will use.

Embracing the Tradition and Creating Memories

Back-to-school shopping has become a beloved ritual for students and parents alike. It’s an opportunity to prepare for the upcoming academic year, refresh our wardrobes, and stock up on essential supplies. The act of picking out new items symbolizes a fresh start and the excitement of embarking on a new educational journey. It’s a chance to express our personal style and feel confident as we step into the classroom.

But back-to-school shopping isn’t just about material possessions. It’s about embracing the transition from the carefree days of summer to a more structured routine. It’s a time to mentally prepare for the challenges and opportunities that lie ahead. By approaching it with a positive mindset, we can turn the shopping experience into an enjoyable and meaningful tradition.

“Education is our passport to the future, for tomorrow belongs to the people who prepare for it today.” – Malcolm X

Creating a Budget for Back-to-School Shopping

While the excitement of back-to-school shopping is undeniable, it’s essential to approach it with a budget in mind. Setting a spending limit ensures that we make informed decisions and avoid unnecessary financial strain. Here are some tips for creating a budget for your back-to-school shopping:
1. Take Inventory: Before hitting the stores, take stock of what you already have. Check your child’s school supplies, clothes, and accessories from the previous year. By identifying what can be reused or repurposed, you can save money and reduce waste.
2. Make a List: Create a comprehensive list of the items you need to purchase. Categorize them into essentials and non-essentials. This will help you prioritize your spending and avoid impulse purchases.
3. Set a Realistic Budget: Determine how much you can comfortably afford to spend on back-to-school shopping. Consider your overall financial situation, including other expenses you may have during this time. Be practical and realistic about what you can afford.
4. Research Deals and Discounts: Look out for sales, promotions, and discounts offered by retailers. Compare prices and explore different options before making a purchase. This way, you can get the best value for your money.
5. Involve Your Children: If your children are old enough, involve them in the budgeting process. Teach them about money management and the importance of making informed choices. By including them in the decision-making, you can instill valuable lessons about responsible spending.
Remember, back-to-school shopping can be an exciting experience without breaking the bank. By embracing the tradition and creating a budget, you can make this annual ritual a positive and financially conscious endeavor.

Modeling Mindful Consumption

“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” – Maya Angelou

Teaching the Value of Money

One of the first steps in teaching your children to shop like minimalists is to help them understand the value of money. By involving them in age-appropriate discussions about finances and budgeting, you can impart the importance of making thoughtful purchasing decisions. Encourage them to save their allowance or earnings toward specific goals, encouraging the concept of delayed gratification.

Prioritizing Needs Over Wants

In a world filled with flashy advertisements and constant demands for the latest trends, it can be challenging for children to differentiate between needs and wants. Help your children develop this crucial skill by encouraging them to question their desires. Teach them to consider whether an item is truly necessary and whether it is something that they will use during the upcoming school year.

Introducing the “One In, One Out” Rule

To avoid clutter and reinforce the idea of mindful consumption, introduce the “one in, one out” rule. Whenever your child wants to bring a new item into their life, encourage them to donate or sell an existing item they no longer use or need. This practice helps them understand the importance of keeping only what they need and prevents unnecessary accumulation of possessions.

Fostering Gratitude and Contentment

Practicing Gratitude

In a world of constant consumption, it is essential to teach our children the power of gratitude. Encourage them to focus on what they have rather than what they lack. Engage them in activities that promote gratitude, such as writing thank-you notes, keeping gratitude journals, or engaging in acts of kindness. By cultivating a mindset of gratitude, they will be less inclined to seek fulfillment through material possessions.

Recognizing the Joy of Experiences

While you’re back-to-school shopping, shift the focus of this event from seeking material possessions to the experience of spending the day together. Have some fun and teach your children to value moments and memories over material things. I remember the time I got to spend with my mom during these shopping excursions, but I can’t recollect a single item we bought. By redirecting their attention toward experiences rather than material possessions, you can help them find joy and contentment beyond the realm of consumerism.

Teaching your children to shop like minimalists is a valuable lesson that will equip them with essential life skills. By embracing mindful consumption, making informed choices, and fostering gratitude and contentment, you can help your children develop a healthier and more sustainable relationship with material possessions.

With the back-to-school season upon us, it’s natural to feel the need to shop for new items. However, embracing a minimalist mindset can help us navigate this consumer-driven time with ease. By focusing on what we actually need and making intentional choices, we can avoid unnecessary purchases and financial stress.

Remember, it’s important to assess our existing belongings before rushing to buy new ones. By decluttering and organizing our spaces, we can gain a better understanding of what we already have and what we truly need. This not only saves us money but also promotes a more stress-free lifestyle.

As we embrace the back-to-school season, let’s remember that minimalism is not about depriving ourselves, but rather about making intentional choices that align with our values. By adopting these minimalist tips, we can approach the need to shop with a more conscious and empowered mindset and teach our children to do the same.
Family, Intentional Living

Words of Wisdom from My Mother, Part III

Jamie Perkins

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July 31, 2023
Embracing Individuality

In a world that often promotes conformity, my mother taught me the invaluable lesson of embracing my individuality. She believed that each person is unique and that it is our differences that make us special. Through her words of wisdom, she encouraged me to be true to myself and to never be afraid to stand out from the crowd.

It can be tempting to mold ourselves into what society expects us to be, but she taught me that true happiness and fulfillment come from embracing who we truly are. By celebrating our quirks, talents, and passions, we not only find a sense of authenticity but also inspire others to do the same.

Cultivating Self-Confidence

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Self-confidence is an essential trait that my mother instilled in me from a young age. She believed that confidence is the key to unlocking our full potential and achieving our goals. Through her guidance, she taught me that self-confidence is not about arrogance or comparing ourselves to others. It is about recognizing our own self-worth and believing in our abilities.

To help create a healthy self-confidence, she encouraged me to set realistic goals and celebrate even the smallest achievements. She emphasized the importance of thinking positively and reminded me that failure is simply an opportunity to learn and to grow.

The Importance of Taking Good Care of Yourself

“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” — Anna Quindlen

Amidst the craziness of life, my mother emphasized the importance of caring for yourself. She believed that taking care of ourselves is not selfish but rather a necessary act of love and respect. She taught me to try to recognize when I needed to slow down and recharge. I didn’t always heed her advice, but that’s another story!

Caring for yourself can take many forms, whether it’s setting aside time for hobbies and passions, prioritizing rest and relaxation, or nourishing our bodies with healthy habits. My mother taught me that self-care is not a luxury but an essential practice that allows us to show up as our best selves in all areas of life.

Resilience is the Key

Resilience is a quality that enables us to bounce back from challenges and setbacks, and it is a trait that my mother always modeled.

Overcoming Challenges

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert Kennedy

Life is full of challenges, both big and small. My mother always emphasized the importance of facing these challenges head-on. She taught me that every obstacle presents an opportunity for growth and learning. Instead of avoiding difficult situations, she encouraged me to confront them with courage and determination.

When we face challenges, it is natural to feel overwhelmed or discouraged. However, my mother reminded me that every challenge is an opportunity to discover our inner strength and capabilities. By embracing challenges, we develop resilience and become better equipped to handle future obstacles.

Perseverance in the Face of Adversity

Adversity is a part of life, and my mother showed me the power of perseverance in overcoming it. She taught me that no matter how difficult the circumstances may be, giving up is never an option. Instead, she encouraged me to keep pushing forward, to stay the course, even when the odds seemed stacked against me.

My mother’s own experiences have shown me that perseverance pays off. She faced many setbacks and obstacles throughout her life, but she never let them define her. Instead, she used them as opportunities to learn, grow and evolve. Her unwavering determination was a constant source of inspiration for me.

The Strength of a Positive Mindset

A positive mindset can work wonders in building resilience. My mother, often called “Pollyanna,” always stressed the importance of maintaining a positive outlook, even in the face of adversity. She taught me that our thoughts and beliefs shape our reality, and by maintaining a positive mindset, we can overcome even the toughest challenges.

When we approach challenges with a positive mindset, we are better able to find solutions and opportunities amidst the chaos. She taught me to focus on the silver linings, to look for the lesson in every setback, and to believe in my own abilities. By keeping a positive mindset, we can strengthen our resilience and navigate through life’s difficulties with grace and determination.

The words of wisdom from my mother serve as a guiding light in my life. These simple yet profound lessons have shaped my character and continue to inspire me every day. From teaching me the importance of kindness and empathy, to encouraging me to always stay true to myself, my mother’s wisdom has become the backbone of my values and beliefs.

Through her words, I have learned the power of perseverance and resilience. She taught me that no matter how challenging life may become, it is essential to keep pushing forward and never give up. Her unwavering support gave me the strength to overcome obstacles and pursue my dreams, even when faced with adversity.

My mother’s wisdom emphasized the importance of gratitude and appreciation. She instilled in me a deep sense of gratitude for the blessings in my life, reminding me to always be thankful for both the big and small things. Her words have taught me to find beauty in every moment and to cherish the precious relationships and experiences that helped shape who I am. The words of wisdom from my mother have undoubtedly shaped the person I am today. Her guidance, love, and support have been invaluable treasures in my life.

I will forever be grateful for the lessons she taught me and cherish all the memories I hold for her in my heart. She’s been gone for over 13 years now, but her words…I still hear them. May her soul rest in eternal peace.

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Family, Intentional Living

More Words of Wisdom from My Mother…Part II

Jamie Perkins

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July 28, 2023

Remember: a small act of kindness can brighten someone’s day, hard work is the key to unlocking your potential, and change is an opportunity for growth.

Words of Wisdom from My Mother: Lessons on Relationships

“Trust is the highest form of human bond. It creates a foundation for love, respect and genuine connections.” – Jeremiah Say

Relationships are an essential part of our lives, shaping our experiences and influencing our happiness. Throughout my journey, my mother has imparted invaluable wisdom on navigating relationships with grace and understanding. Today we will explore three key lessons she taught me about relationships: the value of communication, building trust and forgiveness, and the power of love and empathy.

The Value of Communication

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.”
― Ernest Hemingway

Open and effective communication serves as the foundation for healthy relationships. My mother always emphasized the importance of expressing oneself honestly and listening with empathy. By actively communicating our thoughts, feelings, and needs, we create a deeper connection with our loved ones.

When we communicate openly, we create an environment of trust and understanding. It allows us to address conflicts, resolve misunderstandings, and strengthen our bonds. By encouraging open dialogue, my mother taught me that communication is not only about speaking but also about actively listening to others’ perspectives. She would say, “Always keep an open mind…you never know what exciting things may stumble in!”

Building Trust and Forgiveness

Trust is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. My mother taught me that trust is earned through consistency, honesty, and reliability. It requires us to be true to our word and to follow through on our commitments. Trust takes time to build but can be shattered in an instant.

On the other hand, she also stressed the importance of forgiveness in maintaining healthy relationships. She believed that holding onto grudges or past mistakes hinders personal growth and damages relationships. Forgiveness allows us to let go of resentment and move forward. It does not mean forgetting or condoning the actions but rather finding peace within ourselves.

Love and Empathy

Love and empathy are powerful forces that can transform relationships. If a mother’s love is pure…a grandmother’s love is truly the purist of loves. My mother taught me that love is not just a feeling but an action. It requires effort, time, understanding, and sacrifice. Love is expressed through acts of kindness, support, and respect.

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It allows us to see beyond our own perspectives and truly connect with those around us. My mother taught me that empathy is the key to fostering compassion and creating meaningful connections with others.

By embracing love and empathy, we can cultivate relationships that are nurturing, fulfilling, and resilient. These qualities enable us to weather the storms of life together and celebrate the joys along the way.

My mother’s wisdom has taught me invaluable lessons about relationships. Through effective communication, building trust and forgiveness, and embracing love and empathy, we can create and sustain fulfilling connections with the people who matter most. Let us cherish these teachings and apply them in our own lives, ensuring that our relationships flourish and bring us joy.

Stay tuned for Part III where we explore lessons on personal growth and the importance taking good care of yourself.

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Family, Intentional Living

Words of Wisdom from My Mother…I still hear them

Jamie Perkins

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July 27, 2023

Words of wisdom from my mother; a phrase that sends us back to our childhood. It reminds us of the firm voice that guided us through life’s complications. From learning how to tie a shoelace to managing the complexities of adulthood, there’s a wealth of wisdom we’ve gleaned from this source.

These words of wisdom, often simple yet profound, have been our beacon in the darkest times. They’ve helped us navigate and make sense of this complex world. Let’s explore this treasure trove of wisdom, sharing the timeless lessons that have guided our path.

While each mother and her wisdom are unique, there’s a universal thread running through all. A thread of pure love, care, and the desire to see their children thrive. Let’s explore this thread and the wisdom it carries, which continues to guide us long after we’ve left the nest.

“Remember, there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end.” — Scott Adams

So, buckle up and get ready to revisit the words of wisdom from my mother. You might find that these nuggets of knowledge are just what you need to solve a problem or make an important decision.

Early Life Lessons

Growing up in the small town of Visalia, California in the 1960’s & 70’s, my mother imparted numerous words of wisdom that have stayed with me throughout my life. These invaluable lessons shaped my character and guided me through both triumphs and challenges. I’d like to share with you three fundamental teachings from my mother: the power of kindness, the importance of hard work, and embracing change.

The Power of Kindness

My mother always emphasized the significance of kindness in our interactions with others. She believed that a simple act of kindness could make a profound difference in someone’s day, and ultimately, in their life. Whether it was a smile, a helping hand, or a kind word, she showed me that compassion and empathy were essential qualities to have. She would say, “Kindness is like a gentle ripple that spreads far beyond its initial impact. You never know how far one good deed may travel.”

The Importance of Hard Work

From an early age, my mother instilled in me the value of hard work. She taught me that success doesn’t come to those who wait for it, but to those who actively pursue it with dedication and perseverance. Through her own example, as a Kindergarten teacher for 35+ years, she showed me that hard work is not only about achieving material success but also about personal growth and fulfillment. It is through hard work that we develop resilience, determination, and a strong work ethic that can keep us focused on our goals.

Embracing Change

Change, my mother would say, is an inevitable part of life. Rather than resisting it, she taught me to try and embrace change with an open mind and a positive attitude. She believed that change brought new opportunities to learn and to grow, and that by adapting to change, we can navigate life’s twists and turns more effectively. Embracing change is not always easy, but my mother taught me to view it as an adventure, a chance to explore new territories and discover our true potential.

As I reflect on these early life lessons, I am grateful for the wisdom my mother imparted. The power of kindness, the importance of hard work, and embracing change have become guiding principles in my own life. I hope that by sharing these lessons with you, they can inspire you to incorporate them into your own journey toward personal and professional growth.

Stay tuned for more words of wisdom from my mother in the upcoming sections of this series.

I welcome your comments below.
Family, Intentional Living, Legacy, Mindfulness

Hum…Is This True?

Jamie Perkins

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July 19, 2023

In my recent research about Baby Boomers, one topic that continues to come up is a bit alarming and centers around the fact that more “Boomers” are choosing to financially support their adult children in some way. If this is true, I wonder why. Have you ever pondered the question, “Why are more baby boomers financially supporting their adult children?”

Well, you’re not alone. In recent years, a significant shift has taken place in many households. Baby boomers, those of us born between 1946-1964, are increasingly stepping in to help our adult offspring navigate financial waters. This trend is reshaping the dynamics of traditional monetary independence that’s been a hallmark of adulthood.

If this is the case, what may be causing this shift with the younger generations? Perhaps it’s a complex blend of economic fluctuations, soaring living costs, and a competitive job market. These factors are making it tougher for young adults to achieve the financial stability their parents or grandparents might have enjoyed at their age.

“Nearly 7 in 10 parents with children 18 or older said they have made a financial sacrifice to help their grown-up kids, according to a new Bankrate survey.” – Jeanne Sahadi, CNN, April 2023

So, if you’re finding more and more of your boomer buddies are helping their adult kiddos out, you’re witnessing a growing trend. It’s a fascinating topic that deserves a closer look, and that’s precisely what we’re about to do. Buckle up, it’s going to be an interesting ride!

Baby Boomers Supporting Adult Children

There has been a noticeable shift in the level of support that baby boomers are providing to their adult children. Let’s explore the various factors contributing to increased support, changing attitudes toward financial independence, the impact on baby boomers’ retirement plans, emotional and psychological factors, the role of technology in changing dynamics, as well as survey results on baby boomers’ support.

The Shift in Financial Support

Unlike previous generations, baby boomers are increasingly finding themselves financially supporting their adult children. This shift can be attributed to various reasons, such as rising living costs, inflation, student debt, and a challenging job market post-pandemic.

A recent survey from Bankrate revealed that 68% of parents have either supported or are currently supporting their adult children, causing delays in their own financial milestones, retirement plans, debt repayment, and even withdrawals from emergency savings.

Factors Contributing to Increased Support

The increased support can be attributed to several factors. Skyrocketing rent prices, high inflation rates, and the burden of student debt have made it harder for young adults to achieve financial independence. Additionally, the uncertainty of the post-pandemic job market has further added to the financial strain. As a result, many baby boomers feel compelled to provide financial assistance to ensure their children’s well-being.

Changing Attitudes Toward Financial Independence

Attitudes toward financial independence have also evolved over time. Gen Z and millennials, in particular, have expressed the belief that they should not be responsible for certain expenses until later in life. They expect their parents to continue supporting them until the ages of 22 or even older. On the other hand, baby boomers and Gen X believe that financial responsibilities should start at an earlier age, around 19 or 20.

Impact on Baby Boomers’ Retirement Plans

The financial support provided to adult children has significant implications for baby boomers’ retirement plans. Many boomers find themselves depleting their retirement savings to assist their children, resulting in a potential shortfall in their own retirement funds. This can lead to delayed retirement or even the need to continue working past retirement age.

Emotional and Psychological Factors

The decision to support adult children goes beyond financial considerations. Emotional and psychological factors also play a role. Baby boomers may feel a sense of responsibility and obligation to support their children, influenced by societal norms and peer pressure. They may also derive personal satisfaction and fulfillment from assisting their children during times of need.

The Role of Technology in Changing Dynamics

The advent of technology has had a profound impact on the dynamics of financial support. With the rise of digital platforms and shared financial accounts, it has become easier for parents to provide financial assistance to their adult children. Technology has facilitated seamless money transfers and simplified the process of tracking and managing expenses, allowing for greater transparency and ease of support.

Survey Results on Baby Boomers’ Support

A survey conducted on baby boomers’ support revealed valuable insights. The survey highlighted the financial strain faced by baby boomers and their desire to set better boundaries with family members or close friends around their financial generosity. Many respondents expressed the need to limit the levels of financial support given to adult children or relatives, as well as the levels of bequests to their heirs, to ensure their own financial security.

It seems that more and more Baby Boomers are indeed supporting their adult children and grandchildren. Research has shown that this trend can be attributed to a variety of factors, including the high cost of living, student loan debt, and the challenging job market. Many Baby Boomers are stepping up to help their children financially, whether it’s by providing a place to live, grandchildren’s school tuition, helping with everyday expenses, or assisting with large purchases like cars or homes.

While this may seem like a generous act, it’s important for both Boomers and their adult children to approach this situation with caution. Baby Boomers should consider their own financial well-being and retirement plans before committing to long-term financial support. Likewise, adult children should strive to become financially independent and not rely solely on their parents for financial assistance.

The dynamics of family support are evolving, and it’s not uncommon to see Boomers extending a helping hand to their adult children. It’s crucial for both parties to maintain open communication, set clear boundaries, and prioritize financial independence. By doing so, families can navigate this new territory in a way that benefits everyone involved.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this!