Category: Mindfulness

Baby Boomers, Intentional Living, Mindfulness, Motivation, Time

PART II: The Truth is, You Think You Have Plenty of Time

Jamie Perkins

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April 3, 2024
Breaking the Illusion

Sometimes, we get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life that we forget an important truth: time is a thief. It sneaks up on us when we’re not looking, stealing those precious moments right out from under our noses. But why do we let this happen? Maybe it’s because we’re under the illusion that we have all the time in the world.

Spoiler alert: we don’t. So, how do we break free from this illusion and start making the most of every moment? Let’s see if we can find out.

“Time is free, but it’s priceless. You can’t own it, but you can use it. You can’t keep it, but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.” – Harvey Mackay

Embracing the Present

Living intentionally in the present moment sounds like something out of a self-help book, doesn’t it? But it’s one of the most straightforward strategies for making sure time doesn’t slip through our fingers. Here are a few ways to start:
- Mindfulness: This isn’t just a buzzword. It’s about being fully aware of the here and now. Try starting your day with a five-minute meditation, focusing solely on your breathing. It’s like giving your brain a mini-vacation from the stress of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow.
- Gratitude Journaling: Every night, jot down one or two things you’re grateful for. It could be as simple as a delicious cup of coffee or the smell of rain. Gratitude anchors us in the present and helps us appreciate the little things.
- Digital Detox: Ever find yourself mindlessly scrolling through social media, only to realize an hour has disappeared? Setting aside specific times to unplug can help you reclaim those lost moments and spend them on something more fulfilling.
Setting Realistic Goals

Now, don’t get me wrong—I’m all for dreaming big. But when we set goals that are too lofty, we can end up feeling like we’ve bitten off more than we can chew. And that’s a fast track to feeling like we’re running out of time. Here’s how to set goals that are just right:
- The Goldilocks Principle: Your goals should be not too big, not too small, but just right. If you want to write a book, don’t set a goal to write it in a month. Break it down into smaller, more manageable pieces, like writing a chapter a month.
- Timeline It: Put a realistic timeline on your goals. Create a step-by-step plan with deadlines that are doable but challenging. It’s like creating a roadmap for your dreams.
- Celebrate Small Wins: Every time you cross a small goal off your list, congratulate yourself. Celebrating progress keeps you motivated and reminds you that you’re moving forward, one step at a time.
Remember, time is a thief, but only if we let it be. By embracing the present and setting realistic goals, we can steal back our moments and live a life full of purpose. Let’s not wait until it’s too late to realize what we have. After all, the best time to start making the most of our time is now.

“You have got to own your days and live them, each one of them, every one of them, or else the years go by and none of them belong to you.” – Herb Gardner

The Urgency of Now

Time waits for no one, and in the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to forget that time is a thief. One minute you’re planning all the things you want to achieve, and the next, you realize another year has slipped through your fingers. Let’s think about the concept of why now, not tomorrow or next year, is the time to act on your dreams and face changes head-on.

Seizing the Day

Have you ever thought about what you could accomplish if you started today? Every journey begins with a single step, and the truth is, there’s no better time to take that step than now. Whether it’s pursuing a new hobby, starting a business, or taking a trip you’ve always dreamed of, the urgency of the present cannot be overstated. Remember, time is a thief, and every day you wait is a day you won’t get back.

I know, taking the first step can be scary. You might be wondering, “What if I fail?” But what if you succeed? Imagine where you could be a year from now if you start today. Here’s a tip to get going:
- Set clear, achievable goals: Break down your aspirations into smaller, manageable tasks. It makes taking the first step less daunting.
- Create a plan: Having a roadmap of where you’re going helps keep you on track.
- Be accountable: Share your goals with a friend or family member. It’s motivating!
Life’s too short to keep putting off your dreams for a “more convenient time.” Let’s be honest, that time rarely comes. So, why not start today?

“The more sand has escaped from the hourglass of our life, the clearer we should see through it.” – Niccolo Machiavelli

Embracing Change

Change is inevitable, and yet, it’s something many of us fear. But here’s the thing: Embracing change can be one of the most rewarding decisions you ever make. Why? Because time is a thief, stealing moments even as we try to hold on to them. Those who make the most of every moment, adapting to change rather than resisting it, often find themselves leading richer, more fulfilling lives.

Think of it this way: Change is like the seasons. Just as winter gives way to spring, bringing new life and new beginnings, change can bring new opportunities and experiences into our lives. Here’s how you can start embracing change:
- Stay positive: Focus on the potential benefits of change, not the negatives.
- Be open to new experiences: Sometimes, the best things in life come from the unexpected.
- Learn from challenges: Every challenge is an opportunity to grow and learn.
Change doesn’t wait for the perfect moment. It comes, whether we’re ready or not. By embracing it, you open yourself to new possibilities that you may never have imagined.

In a nutshell, don’t let time be a thief of your aspirations or your ability to adapt. The urgency of now is calling – seize the day and embrace change. Make every moment count!

In the journey of uncovering the truth behind the notion that “time is a thief”, we’ve ventured through the various ways in which this silent pilferer operates, often unnoticed. We’ve explored the intricate relationship between making the most of our moments and the comforting yet deceptive belief that there’s always more time.

This exploration has unveiled a simple, yet profound realization: every second is a treasure trove of possibility, waiting to be unlocked. The trouble is… we think we have plenty of time. This belief lulls us into a false sense of security, tempting us to postpone our dreams, delay our goals, and take our relationships for granted.

Let this be a call to action. Let’s shift our perspective to see time not as an infinite resource, but as the precious, fleeting gift it truly is. Let’s vow to cherish each moment, embrace every opportunity, and live with a sense of urgency. After all, time is a thief, but only if we allow it to be. Let’s not give it that chance.

Thank you for your gift of time!
Baby Boomers, Intentional Living, Less is Now, Mindfulness, Motivation, Perseverance, Time

Time is a Thief: Shattering the Illusion of Endless Hours

Jamie Perkins

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April 2, 2024
Time is a thief, lurking in the shadows, stealthily and silently sweeping away the minutes and hours of our days. It’s a truth universally acknowledged, yet so easily overlooked. As we busily tread through the routines of our daily lives, it’s all too common to fall into the trap of thinking we have an abundance of time. “Later,” we tell ourselves. “I’ll start tomorrow.” But what if tomorrow is a luxury we can no longer afford?

I’ve been there, caught in the delusion that time is a limitless commodity. I’ve watched opportunities slip through my fingers, all because I thought I had plenty of time. This piece is a wake-up call to anyone who’s ever said, “I’ll do it later.” It’s a peek into the reality that time is not just a thief; it’s the most elusive, precious resource we have.

You’re not alone in this. We all fall victim to procrastination, to delaying our dreams and aspirations under the assumption that there will always be more time. But here’s the kicker – recognizing that “later” might never come is the first step toward reclaiming control from time’s grasp.

Today, we’ll begin to explore strategies to make the most of the time we’re given, turning “someday” into “today.” Whether you’re looking to pivot your career, deepen relationships, or just find more time for yourself, understanding and acknowledging that time is a thief is your starting point.

The Illusion of Endless Time

Time is a slippery slope. We often talk about it as if it’s a tangible thing we can control or own and the trouble is that we think we have plenty of it. Yet, the reality is far different. In our daily lives, we’re caught in this constant dance between what we perceive time to be and what it actually is. We plan, we postpone, we dream, all under the illusion that tomorrow is guaranteed. But here’s a truth worth pondering – time is a thief. It doesn’t wait, pause, or stop for anyone.

“You may delay, but time will not.” – Benjamin Franklin

Perception vs Reality

Think about how many times you’ve told yourself, “I’ll do it tomorrow,” or “I have plenty of time for that.” Sounds familiar, right? This is where the tricky part of our brain comes in, making us believe we have an endless supply of tomorrows. The sun will rise and set, and we’ll have another chance to do what we want to do. But let’s get real – time isn’t infinite. Each day that passes is one less day in our bank of life. The tricky part? We don’t know how much we have left. So, why do we so often act as if we’re immune to the ticking clock?

Perception tells us that time is a vast ocean, while reality is more like a swiftly moving stream. It flows regardless of our plans or wishes. And just like that, days turn into weeks, weeks into months, and months into years. Before we know it, we’re left wondering where all that time went. It’s like planning to save money without checking your bank balance; suddenly, you’re left with empty pockets.

Procrastination’s Deceptive Comfort

“Try as we may, we just can’t stop time.” – The Minimalist Boomer

And then there’s procrastination, our so-called friend that whispers soothing lies about having all the time in the world. It’s that false voice that seduces us into thinking we can start that project tomorrow, lose that weight next month, or chase our dreams next year. But here’s the deal – procrastination is a master of deception. It provides a temporary shelter from anxiety or fear of failure, wrapping us in a cozy blanket of “later.”

Yet, what happens when “later” becomes “too late”? When the deadlines approach, the opportunities disappear, and the moments that matter slip through our fingers? Procrastination doesn’t just steal our time; it robs us of our potential. Each moment spent in its comforting embrace is a moment lost forever. It’s a harsh truth but recognizing it can be the wake-up call we need. Imagine you’re on a road trip and keep saying you’ll fuel up at the next station. Suddenly, you’re stranded in the middle of nowhere, wishing you had acted sooner.

Time is a precious gift, but it’s also a thief, slipping quietly through our fingers when we’re not paying attention. Let’s not be fooled by the illusion of endless time or lulled into inaction by procrastination. Instead, grab every moment, live fully, and make the most of the time we have. Because in the end, it’s not about having time; it’s about making time.

The Impact of Delayed Action

Time is a sneaky little thing. I’ve come to realize that every second we let slip by brings us a step away from our goals and dreams. It’s like time has this knack for slipping through our fingers, especially when we think we have an abundance of it. Have you thought much about how putting things off can really cost us in the long run?

“Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.” – Dale Carnegie

Opportunities Lost

Have you ever put something off until tomorrow, only to realize tomorrow never comes? It’s a common tale. The thing is, delaying important tasks or goals doesn’t just push back our timeline; it closes doors. Opportunities are fleeting. They’re like shooting stars, bright and beautiful, but blink, and you’ve missed it.
- Missing the Boat: Imagine you’ve been eyeing a dream job or a course that could skyrocket your career. But, you tell yourself, “I’ll apply tomorrow.” However, tomorrow turns into next week, and by the time you finally click ‘submit,’ the position is filled, the course is booked. Opportunity lost.
- The Ripple Effect: Consider how one missed chance can lead to a cascade of lost opportunities. Not taking that course might mean you don’t meet the mentor who could have changed your career path. It’s a chain reaction.
Regrets and What-Ifs

Now, let’s talk about the emotional toll. There’s nothing quite like lying awake at night, your head churning with ‘what-ifs’ and regrets. It’s the mind’s not-so-fun way of reminding us of what we’ve lost to procrastination.
- Regrets: They’re like uninvited guests at a party, lingering long after everything’s over. Not going after what we want because we think there’s always tomorrow means living with the nagging feeling of “what if I had just started sooner?”
- What-If Scenarios: These are the stories we tell ourselves about the paths not taken. “What if I had just submitted that application on time?” “What if I had told them how I felt?” It’s a cycle of self-doubt and speculation that feeds on the time we thought we had plenty of.
In a nutshell, thinking we have all the time in the world is a trap. It leads us down a path filled with missed opportunities and what-ifs that haunt us. Remember, time is a thief; it’s up to us to make every moment count. Let’s not give it the chance to steal our dreams right out from under us.

Stay tuned for Part II of this article tomorrow…if you have the time!
Baby Boomers, Intentional Living, Legacy, Less is More, Mindfulness, Motivation, Simplicity, Time

Baby Boomers . . . Reshaping the Notion of Retirement

Jamie Perkins

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March 29, 2024

The concept of ‘The New Old Age’ is gaining traction as those of us in our 60s and 70s navigate a period of significant transition from our main careers to the next chapter of our lives. This phase represents a shift in perspectives toward aging and retirement, uncovering both challenges and opportunities along the way.

As we embrace the evolving notions of aging, the traditional paradigms surrounding retirement are being redefined. Adults entering ‘The New Old Age’ phase are exploring fresh avenues for personal growth, fulfillment, and contribution to society beyond the confines of conventional retirement norms.

With changes in demographics and longer life expectancies, the idea of aging gracefully and purposefully takes center stage. The emphasis shifts toward active participation in society, ongoing learning, and the pursuit of new passions and interests that enrich the later stages of our lives.

Join me as we delve into the realms of ‘The New Old Age,‘ where people like me are carving out new pathways, embracing reinvention, and redefining the meaning of retirement in a world brimming with possibilities and potential.

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” – Mark Twain

Embracing the New Chapter

Life is a journey filled with different chapters, and as we enter the this new phase, there is a shift in perspectives that encourages us to embrace the opportunities that come with aging. Let’s explore how our views on aging have transformed, emphasizing the significance of staying active, engaged, and purposeful in the later stages of life.

Changing Perspectives on Aging

The perception of aging has evolved significantly over the years. We now understand that age is not a limitation, but a new chapter filled with new possibilities. It’s no longer about slowing down (unless you want to) but about staying involved in activities that bring joy and fulfillment. We can finally make the time to explore new interests, learn new skills, and contribute to the community in different and meaningful ways.

Transitioning from Main Careers

Leaving behind a primary career can be a daunting experience for many of us. The transition into the new old age often involves a period of self-reflection and exploration to discover new avenues for personal growth and fulfillment. It can be a time to pursue passions that may have been set aside during the hustle of career life and to reinvent oneself in exciting ways. While challenges may arise, this phase offers the opportunity to redefine success on our own terms.

Exploring Opportunities

Perhaps there is a dream you’ve always had, but never had the time or courage to give it a try. You couldn’t risk the security of your career by venturing out into the unknown. Now that you’re off the treadmill, go for it! What have you got to lose?

Second Career Paths

Embarking on a second career after retirement has become a popular and fulfilling choice for many individuals. It’s a chance to reinvent oneself professionally and embrace new challenges. Take the story of Jane, who transitioned from a career in education to becoming a successful freelance writer post-retirement. By pursuing her passion for writing, she not only found a sense of purpose but also enjoyed the flexibility that her new career offered. The benefits of exploring second career paths extend beyond financial rewards; they can lead to personal growth, skill development, and a renewed sense of vitality.

“Retirement is a blank sheet of paper. It is a chance to redesign your life into something new and different.” – Patrick Foley

Entrepreneurial Endeavors

The entrepreneurial spirit knows no age limits, and older adults are embracing this mindset with vigor. Starting a business or pursuing a passion project can open up a world of opportunities and create a fulfilling post-retirement life. Consider Mark, who turned his lifelong love for woodworking into a thriving online furniture business after retiring from his previous job. By following his entrepreneurial drive, Mark not only found a new source of income but also discovered a renewed sense of purpose and creativity. Entrepreneurial endeavors can offer a sense of autonomy, creativity, and the chance to leave a lasting legacy.

Embracing second career paths and entrepreneurial endeavors are just some of the many avenues available for individuals in the ‘New Old Age.’ By exploring these diverse opportunities, one can enjoy a fulfilling and enriching post-retirement life, filled with growth, purpose, and excitement.

Community and Connection

As we embrace the ‘New Old Age,’ the significance of community and connection in our lives becomes more profound. Social networks and support systems play a crucial role in combating social isolation and loneliness among older adults. Having a few strong friendships, engaging in social activities, and being part of support systems can bring many benefits by providing companionship, emotional support, and a sense of belonging.

Social Networks and Support Systems

Maintaining social connections is like nurturing a garden; it requires care and attention. Friendships and support systems act as a safety net, offering comfort during challenging times and sharing joy during moments of celebration. These connections not only provide emotional support but also help in reducing feelings of loneliness and isolation. By staying connected, we can enjoy a sense of community and mutual understanding that enriches our lives significantly.

Involvement in Community Activities

Engaging in community activities, volunteer work, and social gatherings can bring purpose and fulfillment to this phase of our lives. Participating in such activities creates a sense of contribution to society, creating a positive impact and leaving a legacy. Through volunteering or joining community events, we can stay active, connected, and mentally stimulated, promoting overall well-being and a sense of fulfillment. Taking part in these activities opens doors to new experiences, friendships, and opportunities for personal growth, shaping a vibrant and enriching life in later years.

“Retirement: a time to enjoy all the things you never had time to do when you worked.” – Catherine Pulisfer

Embracing ‘The New Old Age’ signifies a remarkable shift in the traditional notions of aging and retirement. It is a period brimming with opportunities for personal growth, community engagement, and purposeful living. As we navigate this exciting phase, let us approach it with a positive attitude and a proactive stance toward creating a fulfilling and meaningful life.

The era of retirement as a time of winding down is evolving into an era of new beginnings and endless possibilities. Let’s seize the moment to redefine aging as a time of vitality, creativity, and continued contribution to society. Together, let’s embrace ‘The New Old Age’ with open arms and welcome our journey ahead with enthusiasm and optimism.
A Fresh Start, Baby Boomers, Intentional Living, Less is More, Mindfulness, Motivation, Simplicity

Ditching Sugar and Refined Flour: How It Revitalized Our Lives

Jamie Perkins

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March 22, 2024
Have you ever considered giving up sugar and refined flour to see how it makes you feel? The impact on your body and mind might surprise you. Dave and I decided to give them up for Lent this year. It’s not easy because sugar and flour are used in many of the products we buy each week. It requires a lot more planning and it costs a bit more money! Yet, the side-effects are sure worth the added effort.

By eliminating these ingredients from your diet, you can experience increased energy levels, improved focus, and even weight loss. Weight loss was not a goal for me, but it is for Dave and he is steadily shedding those extra pounds each week. It’s not just about what you’re removing; it’s about the positive changes you’re inviting into your life.

Making this shift can be challenging at first, but the long-term benefits are worth it. Say goodbye to the highs and lows of sugar crashes and embrace a more stable and vibrant way of living. Join me as we explore the effects of cutting out sugar and refined flour and discover a healthier, more fulfilling lifestyle.

“Those who think they have no time for healthy eating will sooner or later have to find time for illness.” – Edward Stanley

Understanding the Impact of Giving up Sugar and Refined Flour

Giving up sugar and refined flour can have a profound impact on our overall health and well-being. Let’s examine how eliminating these two ingredients can make you feel better in the long run.

The Effects of Sugar on the Body

When you consume sugar, your body experiences a rapid spike in blood sugar levels, providing a sudden burst of energy. However, this energy boost is often short-lived and followed by a crash, leaving you feeling tired and sluggish. The excessive intake of sugar can also lead to weight gain, increased risk of heart disease, and diabetes. By cutting out sugar, you may experience more stable energy levels throughout the day, improved mood, and better long-term health outcomes. It is not an easy process and I experienced symptoms of withdrawal for a few days.

Exploring the Risks of Refined Flour Consumption

Refined flour, commonly found in white bread, pasta, and pastries, lacks the essential nutrients and fiber present in whole grains. This refined product can cause a rapid increase in blood sugar levels, leading to spikes and crashes in energy. Over time, a diet high in refined flour can contribute to weight gain, inflammation, and an increased risk of chronic diseases. By replacing refined flour with whole grain alternatives, we noticed more stable blood sugar levels, improved digestion, and enhanced overall health.

Our Journey to Eliminating Sugar and Refined Flour

Embarking on the journey to eliminate sugar and refined flour from our diet during this Lenten Season was not an easy decision. We talked about doing just sugar, but quickly realized how much sugar is in refined white flour products so why not just eliminate them together? Initially, the challenges seemed a bit daunting, but the motivation to improve our health and well-being was the driving force behind our commitment. The realization that these ingredients were impacting our energy levels, mental clarity, and overall health pushed us to make a change.

Initial Challenges and Motivations

The first step in giving up sugar and refined flour was acknowledging the hold they had on our eating habits. In a routine health check-up, I discovered my cholesterol was a whopping 255, which is unheard of for me. I knew I had to do something to improve my health. Dave’s was high too, but not as bad as mine and since he wanted to lose some weight, we thought there’s no time like the present to make a life-style change.

Making the decision to cut out these ingredients meant reevaluating our relationship with food. We had fallen into some really bad habits and it required a shift in mindset and a greater understanding of the impact of these substances on our bodies. Learning about the inflammatory effects of sugar and the empty calories provided by refined flour was eye-opening and served as a strong motivator to make a change.

Transitioning to a Healthier Diet

Transitioning to a diet free of sugar and refined flour was a process that required patience and commitment. Meal planning and preparation played a crucial role in successfully transitioning to a healthier diet. By having nutritious options readily available, we were less tempted to reach for unhealthy snacks. Experimenting with new recipes and flavors made the transition more exciting and helped us discover a newfound love for wholesome ingredients.

Embracing this new way of eating has not only improved our physical health but also has had a significant impact on our overall well-being. The increased energy levels, and mental clarity are clear indicators of how eliminating sugar and refined flour positively affected how it makes us feel on a daily basis.

Navigating Social Situations and Cravings

Food cravings can be tricky to handle, especially when you’re trying to cut out sugar and refined flour from your diet. Here are some strategies to help you manage those cravings and stick to your healthier eating goals.

“Water is the most neglected nutrient in your diet, but one of the most vital.” – Julia Child

Strategies for Handling Cravings
1. Stay Hydrated: Sometimes, our bodies confuse thirst with hunger. Keep a water bottle handy and drink water throughout the day to stay hydrated and keep cravings at bay. I also use sugar-free hydration tablets with a glass of water and that really helps keep me hydrated.
2. Healthy Substitutions: Instead of reaching for a sugary treat, opt for healthier alternatives like fresh fruits, nuts, sugar-free yogurt with a drizzle of honey, or sugar & gluten-free blueberry muffins. These options can satisfy your sweet tooth without derailing your progress.
3. Mindful Eating: Take the time to savor and enjoy your meals. Eating mindfully can help you recognize when you’re truly hungry versus just craving something out of boredom or habit.
4. Plan Ahead: Prepare nutritious snacks and meals in advance so you’re not tempted to grab unhealthy options when cravings strike. I enjoy making sugar-free peanut butter protein balls which come in handy when you just need a little bite of energy. Having healthy options readily available can make a big difference in staying on track.
“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” – Jim Rohn

Eating Healthy in Social Settings
1. Communicate Your Goals: Let your friends and family know about your dietary preferences and goals. This can help them understand your choices and offer support when you’re in social situations.
2. Choose Wisely: When dining out, scan the menu for healthier options. Look for dishes that are grilled, steamed, or roasted instead of fried. You can also ask for dressings and sauces on the side to control portions.
3. Be Assertive: Don’t be afraid to make special requests when ordering at restaurants. I do this all the time anyway because I’m such a picky eater! I find that most places are willing to accommodate dietary preferences, such as swapping out sides for a salad or requesting sauce-free dishes.
4. Bring Your Own: If you’re attending a gathering where you’re unsure about the food choices, consider bringing a dish that aligns with your eating plan. This ensures you have a healthy option available and can enjoy the social aspect without compromising your goals. Our family and friends know I always bring a nice fresh vegetable salad to our gatherings.
Navigating social situations and managing cravings can be challenging, but with the right strategies and mindset, you can stay committed to your sugar and refined flour-free lifestyle. Remember, it’s about progress, not perfection, so be kind to yourself along the way.

Sustaining Long-Term Health and Happiness

The decision to give up sugar and refined flour has not only brought immediate benefits but also promises long-term health advantages. We have experienced sustained energy levels throughout the day, free from the energy crashes that used to plague us after consuming sugary snacks or refined carbs.

We’ve also noticed a significant improvement in our mood and mental clarity. By eliminating these harmful ingredients from our diet, we feel more focused, alert, and overall, happier, not to mention, our cholesterol is down to normal levels again. It’s amazing how something as simple as changing what we eat can have such a profound impact on how it makes us feel both physically and mentally.

So, now that I’ve decluttered the pantry and we’ve rid ourselves of refined sugar and flour during this Lenten Season, we’ve decided to make this our lifestyle choice moving forward. It just feels so good and I wouldn’t trade this feeling for anything.

Here is a simple recipe for the Peanut Butter Protein Balls (adapted from ElaVegan). This is easy to make and has been a great go-to, 120 calorie, snack for us. I hope you enjoy!

INGREDIENTS
- 1 1/3 cup rolled oats, gluten-free (I use Bob’s Red Mill)
- 2 Tbsp chia seeds (you can use hemp seeds or any seed of your choice)
- 1/3 cup unsweetened shredded coconut (feel free to add chopped pecans or almonds too)
- 1/3 cup creamy peanut butter (I use Justin’s Classic) or any nut/seed butter of your choice.
- 1 tsp vanilla extract
- 1/4 cup honey or liquid sweetener of your choice (maple syrup, agave, monk fruit, Allulose, etc.)
- 3 Tbsp sugar-free chocolate chips (I use Hu)
INSTRUCTIONS
- First, heat the peanut butter in the microwave until it softens. Set it aside to cool. If the peanut butter is already runny (like natural peanut butter), you can skip this step.
- Then, combine the oats, coconut, nuts, and chia seeds in a medium bowl. Add the runny peanut butter, sweetener, vanilla, chocolate chips and stir until well combined.
- Place the mixing bowl in the refrigerator for about 20 minutes to help it firm up.
- Divide and roll the mixture with your hands (oil your hands if needed). I usually have enough dough for about a dozen balls. You can eat one immediately or put them back to the refrigerator to firm up slightly more. A batch lasts us about a week.
Baby Boomers, Intentional Living, Mindfulness, Motivation, Simplicity

Can We Agree to Disagree and Still Respect One Another?

Jamie Perkins

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March 20, 2024

This question has been on my mind a lot lately. It appears every time I turn on the news, open a newsfeed on my laptop or tablet, most of the headlines feature people arguing over anything and everything. Who wants to be bombarded with that every day? Listening to people argue, without any resolution, doesn’t solve problems, it just raises our anxiety levels. I have never enjoyed being in a room filled with angry people fighting over ridiculous things, many of which they have no control over. So why bring that toxic nonsense into our lives?

Can we truly coexist peacefully despite our differences? In a world filled with diverse beliefs, perspectives, and values, the ability to respect differing opinions and find common ground becomes crucial. The question arises: is it possible to agree to disagree and still respect one another?

Acknowledging and embracing the fact that not everyone will share the same views is the first step toward establishing understanding. Embracing the beauty of diversity and opening our minds to alternative perspectives can lead to enriching exchanges and meaningful connections.

By exploring the concept of respectful disagreement, we delve into the realm of empathy, tolerance, and acceptance. It challenges us to seek understanding rather than conformity, to engage in constructive dialogues that honor individual autonomy while nurturing a sense of unity in diversity. Can we just agree to disagree and move on?

Understanding Diverse Perspectives

In a world brimming with unique viewpoints and backgrounds, embracing diverse perspectives becomes crucial for creating meaningful connections and mutual respect. When we approach interactions with empathy and compassion, it opens doors to understanding even in the face of disagreement.

“When we agree to disagree, we are honoring the relationship above trying to change the person.” – The Minimalist Boomer

Empathy and Compassion

Empathy serves as a powerful tool in building bridges between people with differing opinions. By stepping into someone else’s shoes and seeking to understand their feelings and experiences, we create a space for open dialogue and mutual respect. When we empathize with others, we acknowledge the validity of their emotions, even if we do not necessarily share the same views.

For instance, imagine a conversation where two individuals have opposing stances on a particular topic. Instead of dismissing each other’s perspectives, they choose to listen with empathy. Through this approach, they not only acknowledge the validity of each other’s feelings but also create a sense of understanding and respect, paving the way for constructive dialogue.

Active Listening

“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.” — M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled

Active listening is another key component in navigating diverse perspectives. By truly tuning in to what others are saying without interjecting or planning a response prematurely, we demonstrate a genuine willingness to understand differing viewpoints. Tips for active listening include maintaining eye contact, nodding to show engagement, and paraphrasing to ensure comprehension.

When we listen actively, we create a space for others to express themselves freely, fostering an environment of mutual understanding. By setting aside judgment and truly hearing what others have to say, we pave the way for respectful exchanges that transcend disagreements.

Acknowledging and appreciating the diversity of opinions, beliefs, and backgrounds is essential in our journey toward personal growth and understanding. Exposure to varying viewpoints challenges us to expand our perspectives, prompting self-reflection and growth.

The Power of Mutual Respect

Finding common ground is key to creating mutual respect among groups of people. By seeking out shared values and interests despite differing viewpoints, we can build bridges that transcend our differences. This emphasis on commonality allows us to see each other not as adversaries, but as allies in the journey toward understanding.

Finding Common Ground

Finding common ground involves acknowledging that while we may not always agree on everything, there are shared values that unite us. By focusing on these shared beliefs, experiences, or goals, we can create a foundation of mutual respect that goes beyond disagreements. This approach not only promotes understanding but also paves the way for constructive dialogues and meaningful connections.

Celebrating Diversity

Embracing diversity as a strength rather than a division is vital in establishing a culture of inclusivity and respect. When we celebrate our differences and unique qualities, we open ourselves up to new perspectives and experiences. By valuing diversity, we can create a more vibrant community where mutual respect thrives. With respect as the cornerstone, diversity becomes a source of enrichment rather than a barrier.

In real-life scenarios, mutual respect has the power to transform relationships and interactions. For example, in workplaces where people come from various cultural backgrounds, mutual respect promotes collaboration and innovation. By acknowledging and appreciating each other’s unique perspectives, teams can harness the power of diversity to achieve shared goals. This illustrates how agreeing to disagree while still respecting one another can lead to productive outcomes.

So, is it possible to agree to disagree and still respect one another? Absolutely! By acknowledging and embracing the fact that we all come from different backgrounds and experiences, we can nurture a culture of mutual respect and understanding.

Let’s celebrate our differences as strengths rather than barriers, recognizing that true growth often emerges from engaging with contrasting viewpoints. When we approach disagreements with an open mind and a willingness to listen, we pave the way for meaningful conversations and real connections.

Together, we can create a more inclusive and compassionate society where differences are not seen as divisions but as opportunities for growth and enrichment. Learn to appreciate your ability to ‘agree to disagree’ and perhaps you will learn something new today and be better off for having done so.
Baby Boomers, Decluttering, Doing Less, Intentional Living, Less is More, Mindfulness, Minimalism, Simplicity

Simple Living Myths: There’s No “Right” Way to Embrace Simplicity

Jamie Perkins

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March 11, 2024

Decluttering is often touted as the key to achieving a simpler, more fulfilling life. However, the journey toward minimalism and simple living is not always as straightforward as it seems. As I ponder the concept of decluttering, I am confronted with some common misconceptions that cloud the path to a lighter, more intentional lifestyle.

Society bombards us with images of perfectly designed minimalist spaces, tricking us into believing that there is a “right” way to embrace simplicity. But the essence of simple living lies in authenticity and individuality. It’s about freeing ourselves from the pressures of conforming to external standards and instead, embracing what brings us joy and purpose.

The urge to declutter and streamline our lives stems from a deep desire to break free from the shackles of consumerism and societal expectations. We yearn for a sense of calm amidst the chaos, for spaces that reflect our values and priorities. Join me as we explore the art of decluttering, not just our physical spaces, but also our minds and hearts, in pursuit of a more meaningful existence.

Challenging the Myth of Perfect Minimalism

Living a simple life isn’t about rigid rules or achieving a perfect state of minimalism. It’s a journey of self-discovery, mindful choices, and finding what really brings joy and fulfillment. Letting go of excess belongings goes beyond just physical clutter; it’s a mental and emotional decluttering process that can lead to a sense of liberation and clarity.

It’s not about the total number of “things” you own

Decluttering is more than just counting items or following strict guidelines. It’s about assessing what matters to you and making intentional decisions about what to keep and what to let go of. Start by decluttering one area at a time, whether it’s a drawer, a closet, or a room. Ask yourself if each item serves a purpose or brings you joy. Consider donating or selling things that no longer align with your values or goals.

The Freedom in Selective Minimalism

Simple living isn’t a one-size-fits-all concept; it’s about finding a balance that works for you. Selective minimalism allows you to select your possessions thoughtfully, keeping only what adds value to your life. Remember, it’s not about living with the least amount of stuff possible, but about surrounding yourself with things that enrich your life.

Embrace the freedom to define your own version of minimalism and let go of the pressure to conform to a strict ideal. Simplifying your life is a personal journey. Find what works for you and embrace the simplicity that brings you peace and contentment.

There’s not a “Right” or “Wrong” Path to Living a Simple Life

One of the most liberating aspects of simple living is that there is no one-size-fits-all approach. There’s no rulebook or checklist to follow. Instead, it’s about finding what brings us contentment and peace in our own lives. Whether we choose to focus on decluttering our physical space, simplifying our daily routines, or cutting back on digital distractions, the key is to do what feels right for us. Simple living is about creating a life that is meaningful and fulfilling, free from the pressures of comparison and perfectionism.

Flexibility in Simple Living Choices

In the realm of simple living, flexibility is key. By focusing on what adds genuine value to your life, you can create a sustainable and personalized approach to simplicity that doesn’t make you feel constrained or restricted. It’s essential to prioritize items and activities that enrich your life. This could mean keeping certain possessions that hold a special value or indulging in activities that recharge your spirit.

Finding Balance in the Simple Living Spectrum

Integrating simplicity into your daily routines can be a gradual process that starts with small, manageable changes. Consider decluttering one area of your home at a time or establishing mindful habits that promote a clutter-free environment. By aligning your actions with your values and consciously selecting what stays in your life, you can create a sense of equilibrium that honors both simplicity and comfort. Remember, there’s no definitive blueprint for living simply.

The essence of simple living lies not in adhering to external standards, but in aligning our actions with our unique values and aspirations. Embracing the mantra that “There is no ‘right’ way to simple living” liberates us from the shackles of comparison and invites us to embark on a decluttering journey that is truly our own.

Let go of the pressure to conform to idealistic standards of simplicity. Instead, embrace the beauty of your individuality and craft a decluttering process that speaks to your heart. As you release the physical and emotional weight of excess, you make space for what matters most in your life. So, take a deep breath, trust in your own path, and step forward with the courage to create a simpler, more meaningful life that is authentically yours.
Baby Boomers, Education, Intentional Living, Mindfulness, Minimalism, Motivation, Perseverance, Simplicity

Just One Decision Away From Living an Entirely Different Life

Jamie Perkins

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March 7, 2024
Life is a series of choices, each one holding the power to shape our future in ways we may not yet realize. Have you ever stopped to consider how a seemingly small decision could alter the course of your entire life?

I vividly remember the day when I chose to take a leap of faith and pursue a different career path. That one decision led me down a completely unexpected journey, transforming my life in ways I could have never predicted. I discovered strengths I never knew I had and enjoyed so much “freedom” in being my own boss and running a successful educational support business. It allowed me more time to be with my family and to be able to do more volunteering in our community, while helping so many students at the same time.

Imagine the possibilities that unfold when we recognize the profound impact of our choices. Every moment presents us with a chance to pivot, to embrace a new direction that might lead to a life beyond our wildest dreams.

As we navigate the crossroads of life, it becomes evident that we are but one decision away from living a completely different life. Let’s explore the power of decisions and how they have the ability to redefine our lives.

The Power of Decision-Making

“Sometimes you make the right decision, sometimes you make the decision right.” – Phil McGraw

Decisions shape the course of our lives, holding the power to transform our realities and lead us down entirely new paths. Understanding the intricate workings of decision-making processes sheds light on our choices and the unforeseen consequences that can arise from them.

Embracing Change Through Decisions

Change is inevitable in life, and often when we find ourselves at a crossroads, we are just one decision away from living a completely different life. Embracing change requires courage and a willingness to step outside of our comfort zones. Let’s examine the power of decisions in two significant aspects:

Personal Growth and Transformation

Making bold decisions can lead to profound personal growth and transformation. When we confront our fears and take the leap into the unknown, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and opportunities for self-discovery. It’s essential to recognize that change can be uncomfortable but staying stagnant can be even more stifling.

Strategies for overcoming the fear of change may include:
- Self-reflection: Take time to understand your values, passions, and what matters most to you.
- Setting goals: Break down your decision into smaller steps to make it more manageable.
- Seeking support: Surround yourself with positive influences and individuals who uplift and encourage you.
- Embracing uncertainty: Understand that not all outcomes can be predicted, but growth often arises from challenges.
Career Shifts and New Opportunities

A single decision has the power to create significant career shifts and open doors to new opportunities. Many people have rerouted their professional paths by making courageous decisions that aligned with their aspirations and values. Assessing where you are and where you want to be is crucial in navigating career changes.

Here are some tips for pursuing new opportunities:
1. Skills assessment: Identify your strengths and areas for development to align with potential career paths.
2. Networking: Connect with professionals in industries of interest to gain insights and broaden your opportunities.
3. Continuous learning: Embrace lifelong learning to stay relevant and adapt to changing job markets.
4. Passion pursuit: Prioritize pursuing opportunities that align with your passions to find fulfillment in your career journey.
Remember that every decision you make shapes your future, and embracing change can set you on a fulfilling and exciting journey.

Navigating Decision Crossroads

Embarking on a journey where a single decision can alter the course of our lives can be both exhilarating and daunting. When faced with crossroads, it’s essential to adopt decision-making practices that pave the way for clarity and confidence, guiding us toward the path aligned with our true desires.

“Decision is a sharp knife that cuts clean and straight; indecision, a dull one that hacks and tears and leaves ragged edges behind it.” – Gordon Graham

Seeking Support and Guidance

When confronted with life-changing decisions, it’s essential to reach out to those who have walked similar paths or possess the expertise to offer guidance. Whether it’s seeking advice from a trusted mentor, consulting a professional counselor, or joining a networking group, tapping into external resources can broaden our perspective and equip us with the tools needed to make informed choices.

The power of a single decision should never be underestimated. Each choice we make has the potential to shape our lives in ways we may not even imagine. It’s in those pivotal moments of decision-making that we hold the key to unlocking a completely different path for ourselves.

Reflecting on our own decision-making processes is crucial; it allows us to understand the impact of our choices and empowers us to make decisions that align with our true desires and goals. Embrace the potential of a single choice and dare to pave a new way forward toward a meaningful life that helps you make a difference each day.
Baby Boomers, Just for Fun, Mindfulness, Simplicity, Time

Unveiling the Illusion: How Appearances Can Be Deceiving

Jamie Perkins

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March 1, 2024

Don’t Judge a Book by its Cover!

Have you ever been surprised by the true nature of something or someone, realizing that external appearances can indeed be deceiving? It’s a common saying, but how often do we heed its wisdom in our daily lives?

We live in a world that often values superficial qualities over deeper truths. Whether it’s judging people based on their looks, making assumptions about a situation without knowing the full story, or underestimating the potential of something based on its initial presentation, we are all guilty of falling into the trap of snap judgments.

Today, let’s talk about how external appearances can be deceiving. We’ll explore real-life examples, dive into the reasons behind why we tend to judge hastily, and discuss the importance of looking beyond the surface to uncover the true essence of things. So, buckle up and get ready to challenge your preconceptions – you might just be in for a pleasant surprise!

Unveiling the Illusion of External Appearances

Have you ever stopped to think about the power of first impressions? It’s fascinating how quickly we form opinions about people based on their external appearances. But what if I told you that these snap judgments can often be deceiving?

“A good first impression starts on the inside, not on the outside.” — Darren Hardy

The Power of First Impressions

Picture this: you walk into a room full of strangers, and within seconds, you’ve already decided who you want to talk to and who you want to avoid. That’s the magic of first impressions. Our brains are wired to make quick assessments based on what we see, even before a single word is spoken. But here’s the catch – external appearances can be deceiving. That person with the stern expression might have a heart of gold, while the one with the charming smile could be hiding a world of insecurities. It’s like judging a book by its cover without ever flipping through the pages.

The Impact of Misconceptions

Misconceptions can have a profound impact on our interactions and opportunities. They often stem from snap judgments based on external appearances, leading to misunderstandings, and missed connections in various aspects of life.

Relationships and Misjudgment

Misjudging others based on preconceived notions can strain relationships and hinder genuine connections. When we allow misconceptions to cloud our perceptions, we risk overlooking the true essence of individuals. These misunderstandings can create rifts between friends, family members, or even colleagues. By assuming we know someone based solely on their appearance or a few surface-level interactions, we deny ourselves the opportunity to forge meaningful relationships built on understanding and acceptance.

Lost Opportunities Due to Hasty Assumptions

“I don’t know if you’ve ever noticed this, but first impressions are often entirely wrong.” — Daniel Handler

Hasty assumptions driven by misconceptions can also lead to missed opportunities. Whether in the professional realm or personal life, making quick judgments without a thorough understanding of a situation or individual can result in lost chances for growth and enrichment.

Opportunities for collaboration, learning, or personal development may slip away when we rush to conclusions based on limited information. By taking the time to challenge our assumptions and delve deeper beneath the surface, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities that would have otherwise remained hidden.

In a world where external appearances can be deceiving, it is essential to approach each interaction with an open mind and a willingness to look beyond initial impressions. By recognizing and addressing our misconceptions, we pave the way for richer relationships and unlock doors to opportunities we might have otherwise overlooked.

“Never judge someone by the way he looks or a book by the way it’s covered; for inside those tattered pages, there’s a lot to be discovered.”
― Steve Cosgroves

Just like a book with a plain cover may hold the most captivating story, people too can surprise us with their depth and character once we get to know them beyond their exterior.
Baby Boomers, Intentional Living, Mindfulness, Minimalism, Simplicity

Rethinking Perfection for Lasting Fulfillment

Jamie Perkins

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February 28, 2024

Have you ever tried to do something perfectly? Think about it. You work at it, doing it repeatedly. Perhaps you read more about it or consult an “expert” opinion on it and keep working on it. Do you ever reach your idea of “perfect?” Or is that idea in your head really just what you think will be perfection? Perhaps it is simply the act of doing something consistently well, over time, that becomes the perfection you are seeking.

Think about what actually defines perfection. It’s not always about grand gestures or extraordinary feats; often, it’s the commitment to mastering the ordinary tasks with unwavering excellence. In a world that glorifies the exceptional, embracing the beauty of doing everyday things well can be a game-changer.

Let’s examine the essence of perfection, not as an unattainable ideal but as a mindset shift toward finding fulfillment in the simplicity of executing the mundane impeccably. As I explore this concept further, I invite you to reconsider your perception of perfection and discover the profound impact of mastering the basics in every aspect of life.

From the seemingly mundane routines to the overlooked daily chores, there is immense power in dedicating ourselves to performing these tasks with precision and care. It’s in these moments of focused attention and dedication that we nurture a sense of pride and accomplishment that goes beyond the ordinary into the realm of excellence.

Join me on this journey of redefining perfection as we unravel the potential of doing the ordinary well. Together, let’s embrace the beauty of mastering the everyday tasks and infusing them with a touch of perfection that elevates our lives in ways we never thought possible.

“Have no fear of perfection-you’ll never reach it. Just do the ordinary well.” – Salvador Dali

Reframing Perfection

Have you ever stopped to consider what true success really means? In a world where extraordinary feats often take the spotlight, it’s easy to lose sight of the value in doing the ordinary exceptionally well.

“The most valuable thing you can make is a mistake. You can’t learn anything from being perfect.” – Adam Osbourne

Defining True Success

Success is not always about grand gestures or monumental achievements. True success lies in the everyday moments where we strive to be the best version of ourselves. It’s in the small, consistent actions we take toward achieving our goals, in the dedication to improving a little bit each day.

Rejecting the Myth of Extraordinary Feats

The societal pressure to constantly chase extraordinary feats can be overwhelming. The reality is that true fulfillment comes from finding joy and purpose in the ordinary tasks of life. By rejecting the myth that success is only measured by extraordinary accomplishments, we free ourselves to appreciate the beauty in the simplicity of everyday moments. Let’s not forget the power of doing the ordinary well. Redefine perfection for yourself as the art of mastering the everyday, finding beauty in the mundane, and celebrating the small victories along the way.

The Power of Consistency

Consistency is like the steady beat of a drummer in a band – it sets the rhythm for success in both our personal and professional lives. Finding joy in daily accomplishments not only boosts our morale but also fuels our motivation to keep going. Imagine how satisfying it feels to check off tasks from your to-do list, no matter how small they may seem. It’s these little victories that add up and form the foundation of a successful, fulfilling life.

“The only way you see results is if you stay consistent.” – Coach Sepi Bricker

Finding Joy in Daily Accomplishments

By consistently completing tasks, we train our brains to associate effort with reward. Each completed task becomes a stepping stone toward our bigger goals, instilling a sense of achievement and satisfaction. This positive reinforcement encourages us to tackle future challenges with enthusiasm and determination. Embrace the process and celebrate even the smallest wins – it’s the daily victories that pave the way for long-term success.

The Impact of Ordinary Excellence

In a world that often celebrates grand achievements and extraordinary feats, there lies a quiet strength in the pursuit of ordinary excellence. By focusing on doing the everyday tasks exceptionally well, we not only elevate our own lives but also create a ripple effect that inspires those around us.

Creating Lasting Fulfillment

In the journey of embracing ordinary excellence, we find fulfillment in the process itself, recognizing that true satisfaction comes from the dedication we put into each task, no matter how tedious it may seem. This lasting fulfillment is a testament to the power of consistency and dedication in shaping a meaningful and purposeful life.

As I reflect on the essence of perfection, I realize that it is not about striving to accomplish extraordinary feats, but rather about executing the ordinary consistently, with precision and care. It is in the everyday tasks, the seemingly monotonous actions, where true excellence is found. By approaching each task with dedication and attention to detail, we can elevate the ordinary into something extraordinary. So, let’s embrace the beauty of simplicity and the power of consistency in our pursuit of perfection.
Education, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Perseverance

You Know That Critical Little Voice in Your Head?

Jamie Perkins

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February 21, 2024

Here is another Guest Post, by Joy Henderson, a Licensed Professional Counselor, practicing in Champaign, Illinois

@joyousperspective www.lifewithasides.joyousperspective.com

Joy and I are childhood friends. We grew up together in the small town of Visalia, CA and have remained close friends all of our lives. I am honored to feature Joy here on The Minimalist Boomer again.

Do you ever find yourself trapped in a cycle of negative self-talk, spiraling from a bad day to feeling like you have a bad life? It’s a common struggle many people face, but it’s essential to remember that it’s just a bad day, not a bad life.

“If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, then why say it to yourself?” – Joy Henderson, @joyousperspective

There’s a funny thing going on in your head. You talk to yourself in ways you would never stand for from another person. The problem is that you don’t seem to realize that you are the one doing the talking. Instead, that critical voice you “hear” inside your head often sounds like the voice of ultimate authority.

Worst of all, it has opinions about your self-worth that are based on ever-escalating expectations. Its fulfillment is a moving target that you always need to meet. If you meet its demands, it raises your quota. And some days, it feels like it’s worse than ever, this computer voice in your head.

You see a life filled with anxiety, depression, and terrible feelings about your identity. This voice is programmed by software put there long ago. It is an amalgam of rules, judgments, and knee-jerk reactions that you adopted. It is all the things perhaps some authority figure told you would make you a better person or the ideal version of their perfect vision for you.

And some days, this voice is louder than ever…

And its only goal is to steer you away from trusting yourself.

Making a bad day into a bad life.

You don’t recognize this voice as the source of your bad feelings. Instead, you think that following this voice might make you scale the heights that face you. You assume the intentions of the voice only have your best interests in mind.

If you don’t mind me asking, why else would it keep weighing in on everything you think and do? It’s just trying to perfect this bad life you’ve made for yourself. The crazy thing is that if you knew real people who sounded like this voice, you would get away from them as quickly as possible. You might put up with their bullying if you had to, but in the privacy of your own mind, you might be thinking, What a jerk!

However, when this voice comes from inside your head, you somehow have no perspective on it. You accept whatever it says as ultimate wisdom. Even if it tells you to stand up for yourself one minute, then rebukes you for being too aggressive the next, you don’t see the contradiction.

And some days, this voice is louder than ever…

And its only goal is to steer you away from trusting yourself.

Making a bad day into a bad life.

This is not the voice of conscience; it is the voice of criticism. The self-critical voice has yet to integrate a comprehensive philosophy. It’s just a bunch of reactive judgments made up on the spot. It is not trying to guide you; it is attempting to make you feel incompetent and minor. To make you shut down in fear and go away quietly. The goal is to steer you away from trusting yourself. To turn a bad day into something bigger.

As the voice pushes contradictory goals that conflict with one another, you end up with a mind full of confusion and uncertainty. Those dreams and goals you hold dear suddenly seem far out of reach.

“It is during those times when your beliefs are tested that you truly understand their value.” – Joy Henderson, @joyousperspective

The next time the voice speaks, notice what its values are. For instance, if it keeps berating you for making an error, it espouses the value that people should be mercilessly punished for being fallible. Now, ask yourself if that is in line with your values. Would you treat another person that way? Is it one of your cherished values that we should react to minor mistakes with insulting disrespect and sweeping attacks on a person’s character? Is it your conscious value that only good people are perfect?

The best way to get free is to externalize the critical voice. Let’s push those voices back outside where you can take a good look at them. You will benefit from picking apart these swallowed-whole beliefs. Thank goodness there is a sensitive observer inside you who can tell the difference between being helped and being hammered.

Remember, a bad day does not define a bad life. It’s easy to get caught up in the negativity of a tough day, but it’s crucial to keep things in perspective. Your self-talk can either lift you up or bring you down, so choose your words wisely. Practice self-compassion and kindness toward yourself. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a friend going through a rough patch. And when that critical voice tries to creep back in and take control of your mind…kick it to the curb!